I need to share something with you, mama: I don’t see you.
Before you click away, let me explain. While I may not see you, I completely understand what you’re experiencing.
I know that you often feel drained, running on caffeine and anxiety. You strive to be an excellent mother, partner, daughter, and friend, yet frequently feel as if you’re failing at all of them. I get that at least once a day you think, “There’s only one of me!”
I recognize that you are filled with profound love for your children, but also carry the heavy weight of guilt for not being who you believe you should be. There are times when you wish you could just escape, only to find yourself parked in a grocery lot, savoring those precious moments of solitude.
I understand that the burden of responsibility can be so overwhelming that you feel paralyzed. Your to-do list likely includes tasks like scheduling dentist appointments, picking up teacher gifts, cleaning the bathrooms, attending conferences, doing laundry, grocery shopping, arranging playdates, pondering “What’s for dinner?” and reminding yourself, “Don’t forget to shower.”
Balancing all these responsibilities while nurturing your little ones can feel like an impossible task. You often worry about whether you’re patient enough, present enough, or simply enough. Overwhelmed, disorganized, and imperfect—that’s how you feel way too often.
I know this struggle because I feel it too. I don’t see you because you keep your struggles hidden behind a brave face. Like many of us, you put on a smile to mask your stress, even on challenging days. You wake up each morning, pull yourself together, and tackle what needs to be done. You are strong. You are a mom.
No, I don’t see you faltering, mama. In fact, it’s likely that the only one who perceives your so-called “weaknesses” is you. But I am you, and many moms out there share your experience. The ups and downs of motherhood create that sense of connection among us. We all have cracks in our “Super Mom” armor; after all, we are only human.
So, the next time you feel like the only hot mess at the playground, remember: everyone is wearing their own mask. You’re not alone in feeling like you’re dropping the ball. It’s okay. That’s why we have each other—and maybe a little wine or chocolate. You’ve got this, mom. Give yourself a breather; having everything together all the time is overrated anyway.
With love,
Your Fellow Hot Mess Mom
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In summary, it’s okay to feel overwhelmed as a mom; you’re not alone in this journey. Embrace the chaos, and remember that perfection isn’t the goal.