Recently, I stumbled upon an insightful article from No Regrets Parenting titled “How To Spend More Quality Time With Your Child.” The author, Dr. Rotbart, emphasizes that instead of stressing over the quantity of time spent with family, we should concentrate on creating quality, memorable moments together. This resonated with my own beliefs about parenting, so I eagerly continued reading, unaware that I was about to encounter a revelation that would hit me harder than discovering a long-forgotten sippy cup under the couch.
At one point, I found myself grappling with my emotions, and I couldn’t help but wonder if what I felt pooling between my fingers was sweat or tears, as I read: “There are only 940 Saturdays from the time a child is born until they head off to college. It might seem like a lot, but how many have you already used up? If your child is 5, that’s 260 Saturdays gone. Poof!”
Wait, what? Did Dr. Rotbart just inform me that I have only 680 Saturdays left with my youngest child? The use of “her” and the reference to a 5-year-old felt like a personal jab. The gravity of this realization was overwhelming.
As I continued to read, my emotions intensified. I felt the all-too-familiar “ugly cry face” coming on—tears streaming down my cheeks and snot running freely, but I was too consumed by my thoughts to care. Blame it on this poignant paragraph: “Imagine their messy rooms transformed into clean, empty spaces. Visualize the backseat of your car devoid of crumbs and car seats… Now, rewind to today and recognize that these chaotic moments are finite and fleeting.”
The thought of my car no longer being a treasure trove of forgotten snacks and toys sent me spiraling. I realized I had been blind to the fact that there’s a ticking clock on my parenting journey. I cursed the hospital staff for not providing me with a “minutes card” when my child was born; I felt like I had squandered precious time on complaints about sleepless nights and endless laundry.
I was still sobbing when I approached my husband, fully aware that we had a deficit of 260 Saturdays with our youngest. But before I could voice my despair, our older child wandered in, disheveled and bleary-eyed, delivering the last thing I wanted to hear at 10 p.m.: “I can’t sleep.”
In that moment, I felt a surge of relief. I didn’t care about whose turn it was to comfort her; I was being gifted more time—an unexpected refund on my “minute card.” As I lay there in the dark, rubbing her tummy as I had done when she was a baby, I wondered how many “Belly Rub Credits” I had left before she deemed herself too old for such affection.
Before long, she was peacefully asleep, and I marveled at how, in 680 Saturdays, she would be off to college, likely navigating life without the guidance I provide now. I cried myself to sleep that night, overwhelmed by the fleeting nature of time.
The next morning, my mind was still consumed with thoughts of how many more moments we’d share watching her play the ukulele before she transitioned to something cooler. While some of my newfound awareness brought about positive changes, it also cast a shadow over my ability to enjoy the present.
I took a moment to reflect on why Dr. Rotbart’s article struck such a chord. Perhaps it was because my children were growing up faster than I could keep up with. They were beginning to assert their independence—making their own scrambled eggs, walking to neighbors without me, and no longer wanting to match in their outfits. Each small sign of growing up was a reminder that time was slipping through my fingers.
While I know that fixating on the number of Saturdays left is not a healthy mindset, I don’t regret reading that article. It served as a much-needed wake-up call, urging me to appreciate the mess, the noise, and every difficult moment that comes with parenting. I realized that every mundane task, like sweeping crumbs from under the table, is an opportunity to cherish rather than resent.
Soon enough, there will come a time when her closet is clean and empty, devoid of the chaos that makes our home lively. I want to remember to embrace every moment, whether it’s joy or frustration, because both are gifts of time.
This was Saturday #286—a day that reinforced the importance of celebrating every single moment, packaged beautifully or not.
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Summary
This article reflects on the finite nature of time spent with children and the importance of cherishing every moment, both joyful and challenging. It emphasizes the need to appreciate daily experiences and encourages a mindset shift towards valuing quality time spent with family.
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