“Mom, I’m boooored.”
Ask any parent what phrase they dread the most, and you’ll likely hear that the whining about boredom is at the top of the list. We’ve all been there. Whether you’re working from home or juggling the daily demands of parenting, a child trailing behind you, incessantly asking for entertainment, can be incredibly frustrating. But here’s the truth: if your child is feeling bored, the responsibility lies with you.
Yes, you read that right. It’s your fault that your child is in the kitchen lamenting their lack of activities. If kids don’t possess the ability to manage boredom, it’s because we haven’t equipped them with the necessary skills. Just like teaching them to brush their teeth, ride a bike, or tie their shoes, we must also help them cultivate their creativity when their surroundings fail to excite them. When a child says, “I’m bored,” they are really expressing, “Mom, I’ve exhausted my options, and I need your help to find something fun.” Well, tough luck, kid—go build a fort or something because this mom isn’t your entertainment committee.
While I may seem indifferent about boredom, it has taken time for me to help my children become comfortable with it. I decided early on that I wouldn’t be the parent who entertained my kids from dawn till dusk. It may sound old-fashioned, but reflecting on my own childhood, I realized that aside from a few instances where my mom engaged in activities with us or took us out for ice cream, she was not my playmate. And I was perfectly fine with that.
My siblings and I had to devise our own fun. We created musical performances in the living room, raced around the neighborhood on bikes and Big Wheels, played endless games of Monopoly and UNO, and occasionally even picked up a book for some quiet time. Boredom sparked our creativity, but that seems less common for many kids today.
At some point, we collectively decided that every moment must be packed with entertainment for our children. We have cars equipped with DVD players, restaurants offering iPads for kids, and streaming services like Netflix and Hulu available at all times. Our afternoons are filled with sports, clubs, and numerous birthday parties on weekends. Thanks to technology, children have less downtime to simply sit and figure things out on their own.
When a child suddenly finds themselves with nothing to do, boredom can feel bewildering and uncomfortable. However, a child who can transform boredom into creativity is one who rarely complains about being bored.
We need to equip our children with the tools to motivate themselves and feel independent during unstructured time. We must encourage them to seek out activities instead of waiting passively for someone to entertain them. It’s crucial to help them feel empowered and confident in their ability to be creative.
How to Encourage Boredom
But how do we achieve this, especially when we struggle to disconnect from our own devices?
Start by allowing your kids to navigate their boredom when it arises. Resist the temptation to suggest activities when they express their boredom. Implement scheduled downtime in your family’s daily routine. Just thirty minutes of quiet time for everyone can boost creativity and increase the number of books they read. And yes, that includes you, Mom: put down your phone and forget about the laundry for a bit.
Say no to the iPad at the restaurant table and let go of the DVD on short car rides. Does your child really need to watch a show on the seven-minute trip to the store? While I appreciate screen time, for both myself and my kids, there are times when it just becomes too much.
Consider turning off the TV, changing the Wi-Fi password, and observing what unfolds. Sure, there may be some initial complaints, but if you hold your ground, you’ll soon witness the wonders of boredom. Kids will eventually find something to engage with. The more they learn to entertain themselves, the less you’ll hear the dreaded “I’m bored” whines.
Though nurturing creativity in my children has led to an abundance of art supplies and a house filled with half-finished science projects and blanket forts, the delightful sounds of their creative play remind me that my life is far from dull.
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Summary
Allowing children to experience boredom is essential for their creative development. By stepping back and resisting the urge to entertain them, parents can help foster independence and self-motivation in their kids. Scheduled downtime and limited screen time can encourage children to explore their own interests, ultimately leading to a more imaginative and resourceful generation.