Dear Emily,
The world into which you have been born is far from perfect. I apologize that it often fails to recognize women as equals. There will be those who perceive you as inferior simply due to the gender you were born with, and it pains me to know you’ll encounter such narrow-mindedness.
I regret that your worth may be measured by the clothes you choose to wear. Your intellect, kindness, and courage may be overlooked because of a miniskirt or high boots. Some will try to shame you, using derogatory terms like “slut” or “whore,” all while claiming to uphold decency. They are the ones who need to learn what true decency is. Remember, do not let their opinions dictate how you feel about yourself.
I’m also sorry that you will have to work harder to prove your intelligence because some believe your gender diminishes it. You may deliver an astute argument only to be dismissed as “too sensitive” or “too emotional.” It’s disheartening that some won’t value your voice simply because you are a woman.
Additionally, it saddens me to acknowledge that your brother may have advantages in life solely because he is male. If you both apply for the same position, it is likely he will earn more for the same work. You might be passed over for promotions or recognition that you rightfully deserve. While I hold hope for progress, I want you to be prepared to stand tall and advocate for what is yours. You are resilient and courageous—never forget that.
I apologize that, due to my encouragement for you to express your emotions, some will mistakenly view you as weak. It’s unfair that the natural process of menstruation might lead others to judge your behavior based on outdated stereotypes. Never feel ashamed of your body—embrace it fully.
If you choose to have children, others may criticize you for balancing work and family, believing you are neglecting your priorities. Conversely, if you decide to be a stay-at-home parent, some may regard it as an easy choice, undermining your dedication. Ultimately, it’s your life to navigate. Discover what ignites your passion, whether that involves children or a career, and pursue it wholeheartedly.
I regret that the world outside these walls may not reflect the respect you receive within our family. While I may sound pessimistic now, I want you to know there is hope. Many are working tirelessly for a better future for you. We are contacting officials, participating in protests, and rallying on social media. We are actively striving for change. We want to ensure that you have access to reproductive rights and equal pay. We are combating victim-blaming and fighting for a brighter tomorrow for you and future generations.
The journey as a woman is fraught with challenges, misconceptions, and ignorance. I apologize for the struggles you will face, but do not let despair cloud your spirit. We are fighting for you, because being a woman is not a burden; it is a powerful and beautiful experience. You are strong, intelligent, and courageous—just like so many women before you.
Stand firm and embrace who you are.