You’ve just arrived home after a long day in sixth grade. Bursting through the door, you declare your plans to slip into pajamas, devour some pizza (a thought that crosses my mind daily around 3 p.m.), and FaceTime your friends. As I watch you immersed in your circle of best friends, enjoying sleepovers, sports events, and hours of laughter, I can’t help but wish for you to savor this joy for as long as possible.
Nurturing Friendships
Throughout high school and into college, nurture your existing friendships while making room for new ones. Embark on adventures, travel, stay up late sharing your dreams, support each other through heartaches, and encourage one another when the weight of school and adulthood feels overwhelming.
Take Your Time
Above all, please don’t rush into settling down, finding “the one,” marrying, or starting a family. There’s no specific age when you must meet certain milestones, and there should be no pressure to conform to societal expectations before you’re truly ready.
Live Independently
Before you dive into that next chapter, I encourage you to live independently for a while. Consider this a gift to yourself, even if you happen to fall in love young. I’m not sharing this because I regret my own choices—I certainly have my share of experiences—but because I valued the time I spent alone.
I lived on my own for over three years before your father moved in with me. It was one of the best decisions I made, allowing me to discover who I am and what I wanted in life. Living alone offers a unique sense of peace, helping you discern what to welcome into your life and what to avoid. You’ll find yourself setting boundaries against drama or toxic relationships more easily.
Learning and Growth
During this time, I learned to manage my own finances, took pride in caring for my car, and opened my checking account, fully aware it would be solely my responsibility. You’ll quickly grasp the value of your hard work and appreciate what you earn. It’s empowering to know that you’re solely accountable for your own well-being.
You’ll also become comfortable with your own thoughts, which sometimes feels lonely, but it teaches you how to be happy on your own. You’ll master the art of enjoying your own company, whether that means dancing around the living room in your pajamas or savoring snacks without a care in the world.
The Luxury of Space
Having your own bathroom will feel like a luxury after sharing one with siblings or dorm mates. You can keep it however you like—no rush, no missing supplies, and no worrying about hot water running out.
Building Resilience
Living alone fosters resilience and decision-making skills. While asking for help is always an option (don’t hesitate to call me or your dad when you need it), you will also learn to solve problems independently, especially in the wee hours when help may not be available. Each challenge you conquer will build your confidence and remind you of your capabilities—you can do anything.
Final Thoughts
While I won’t dictate your path, I genuinely hope you take this advice to heart. You won’t regret the experience, I assure you. And perhaps I’ll get the chance to visit you occasionally, share a laugh, and relive those carefree moments together.
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In Summary
Take the time to live alone and discover yourself. It will empower you and shape your future relationships for the better.