The world you’ve entered is complex and, at times, overwhelming. I genuinely apologize that it often fails to recognize women as equals. Many individuals will unfortunately judge you solely based on your gender, believing you to be inferior simply because of who you are.
I’m sorry that your appearance, particularly the clothes you choose to wear, will lead to unfair judgments. Your intellect, kindness, and bravery may be overshadowed by superficial assessments based on your outfit. It’s disheartening that some will resort to hurtful labels like “slut” or “whore” in the name of decency, while their own understanding of respect and appropriateness is lacking. Please remember, don’t allow anyone to dictate how you should feel about yourself.
I’m sorry you’ll find yourself in a position where you must constantly validate your intelligence, simply because of your gender. Even when you present a compelling argument, there will be those who dismiss your contributions, labeling you as “too emotional” or “too sensitive.” Don’t let these misconceptions deter you from expressing your thoughts and advocating for yourself and others.
I’m sorry to acknowledge that your brother may have certain advantages in life purely because he is male. In instances where you both hold the same role at work, he could receive a higher salary, and you may be passed over for promotions despite being equally qualified. It’s frustrating, and I wish it weren’t the case, but I want you to be prepared to stand up for what you deserve.
It’s also troubling that some will misinterpret your ability to express emotions as a weakness. There will be moments when your natural bodily functions, like menstruation, might invite unwarranted judgment. Never allow anyone to shame you for your body—it is a part of who you are, and you should embrace it with pride.
If you choose to have children, you will likely face criticism for working outside the home, as some may believe you’re neglecting your family responsibilities. Conversely, if you decide to be a stay-at-home parent, you might be viewed as taking the easy route. Ultimately, it is your life to live. Discover what inspires you, whether it involves children or a career; follow your passion, whatever it may be.
I acknowledge that the world outside these walls may not treat you with the same respect that you receive here. I apologize for the weight of this reality, but I want you to know there is hope. There are countless individuals advocating for a brighter future for you. We are tirelessly reaching out to our leaders, participating in protests, and uniting on social media. Change is possible, and progress is being made.
We are fighting for your rights—your reproductive freedom, equal pay, and against the stigma surrounding victimhood. The road ahead may be fraught with challenges, but remember that we are standing up for you. Being a woman is not a burden; it is a source of strength, beauty, and resilience. You possess that strength within you.
Keep shining, my girl. You have the power to create change and inspire those around you.
Warmly,
Mom