As a mother of twins, I found breast milk donations to be an invaluable resource for my family.
Since welcoming my twins last year, I’ve been dedicated to breastfeeding. While I respect others’ choices to formula feed, I’ve chosen to stick with breastfeeding, despite the many challenges that come with it. Since June, I’ve faced pressure to switch to formula, receiving criticism from family, friends, and even healthcare professionals. I’ve been labeled selfish and left questioning my ability to provide enough nutrition. Coupled with issues like clogged ducts and poor latches, the journey has been tough. Yet, my love for nursing and providing my boys with breast milk remains unwavering.
A Turning Point
The turning point came when I received my first bags of donor milk during a bout of bronchitis. My cousin, also a twin mom, quickly sent 17 ounces via overnight shipping. It helped me through a day of fever and illness. Then, at a community event, a high school friend offered me her pumped milk. Though I hesitated to accept help, tears filled my eyes as she graciously delivered milk to my door, ensuring I had enough during a growth spurt.
When my best friend had her baby, she also contributed, dropping off bags of milk and sometimes even coffee. Her support has been immeasurable. Additionally, I was contacted by a stranger on Facebook who found me through Human Milk 4 Human Babies. Accepting a large bag of her generous donation brought tears of gratitude to my eyes, knowing it would nourish my boys.
The Challenges of Motherhood
I understand that not everyone is comfortable donating or accepting milk, but for me, it feels like a lifeline. Motherhood is challenging, and nursing can be particularly daunting. To the women who have supported me through this journey, thank you. You may not realize how much your generosity has meant to me.
You might not know that I often feel overwhelmed and inadequate, juggling the needs of my twins, my daughter, and my husband. You may not know the judgment I’ve faced for my choices, or that a nurse once suggested I shouldn’t be upset if my twins needed formula, and I was still recovering from surgery. You may not know how much I celebrate when my sons stay above the 5th percentile for weight or how often I’ve cried in frustration and exhaustion. The relief I felt when I opened my freezer to find those bags of donor milk was immense.
Now you know.
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Conclusion
In summary, the support I received through breast milk donations profoundly impacted my breastfeeding journey as a twin mom. It’s a testament to the power of community and the kindness of others during challenging times.