Maybe it’s my introverted nature, or perhaps it’s because I embody the “stay home” in stay-at-home mom. It could even be my quirky sense of humor. Whatever the reason, I’ve come to realize that not having a “mom group” is perfectly okay.
I’d be lying if I said I never felt a twinge of envy when I see posts on social media showcasing moms running together or sharing heartfelt thank-yous for their “tribes” that are always there during tough times. They embark on vacations as a crew, host large playdates, and exchange childcare so they can enjoy date nights. These bonds seem unbreakable, and I admire the support they provide one another.
I’m genuinely happy for these women and the community they’ve built. It’s inspiring to witness how a group of women can uplift each other and create something extraordinary. When I hear them talk about finding their “people,” it warms my heart.
While I can celebrate their connections, I also accept that my experience is different. I find myself somewhat on the periphery of social circles.
Don’t get me wrong; I do have mom friends. We manage to gather occasionally to vent about the challenges of parenting toddlers and the chaos they bring. However, the friends who truly understand me are few and scattered across different locations. Do I have a close-knit group of women with whom I regularly hang out and share game nights? Not really.
Of course, there are downsides to this scenario. I lack a readily available support system for those moments when I need a break and want someone to look after my kids for a few hours. I don’t have a collective of moms I can depend on for last-minute babysitting so my husband and I can enjoy a night out. While I can plan ahead to make things happen, having a group would certainly streamline the process. It seems like having a tribe means there’s always someone nearby willing to lend a hand.
But that’s not my reality. My mom friends are far from me, so most of the time, I’m navigating this parenting journey solo. I’ve spent enough time lamenting my lack of a close-knit group, and I’m ready to move on. I’m at peace with who I am, even if I don’t fit neatly into the mom circles around me. I often find myself on the outskirts, occasionally welcomed into the inner circle, but it’s never a permanent spot.
And that’s perfectly fine.
I harbor no resentment towards them, nor do I pity myself. I like who I am and my current situation. I appreciate my independence and the fact that I’m free to be myself without being tied to an ongoing group chat about babysitting arrangements.
There’s talk that once my kids are in school, I’ll forge friendships with the parents of their classmates, and maybe I’ll eventually find my own group. For now, I’m content to embrace where I am. I’m sure that my soul sisters will find me eventually because I know I’m quite a catch.
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Summary
In this article, Jenna Richards reflects on her experience of not having a close-knit mom group and expresses contentment with her independent parenting journey. Despite occasional feelings of envy towards moms with strong support systems, she embraces her individuality and finds peace in her situation. As she considers the future, she remains hopeful about forming connections when her children start school.