Growing a tiny human is no small feat. With all the physical changes and emotional ups and downs, feeling attractive can be quite the challenge. And on top of it all, there’s a partner who still wants to get intimate.
While some women embrace the idea of pregnancy sex, others, like new mom blogger Jenna Fields, find it a bit less appealing. Jenna, a mother of three with a fourth child expected soon, recently shared her candid thoughts on the topic. Her post humorously highlights her disbelief that her husband still desires intimacy during her third trimester. If you’ve felt a kinship with those sentiments, you’re not alone.
Jenna writes, “Let’s be real, pregnant intimacy—let’s not get all fancy with the term.” And honestly, she’s right. At this stage, it feels like a miracle that anything is happening at all. It’s more of a quick in-and-out situation along with an obligatory snack afterward.
She acknowledges that while some women thrive during pregnancy and enjoy the extra affection, she’s not one of them. “I’m now 30 weeks along and that brief window of feeling somewhat normal is long gone,” she explains, diving into the realities of late-stage pregnancy.
“I thought I’d be the ultimate ‘pregnancy goddess’—I promised myself I’d embrace every moment and love my partner more deeply. But here I am, feeling like a beached whale,” she laughs, describing her sweaty, uncomfortable state. With a rashy belly and the feeling of being less than glamorous, she’s amazed her husband still sees her as beautiful.
Jenna wonders what’s up with him. “I’m leaking, I stink, and I’m just not the woman he married. But somehow, he still wants me.” It’s a sentiment many women can relate to; it’s difficult to understand how any partner remains interested during the later stages of pregnancy. Perhaps he has a unique attraction to pregnant women, or maybe he’s simply a loving partner who supports his emotional, stretched-to-the-limit wife. Either way, she’s thankful to have him.
To all the partners out there who remind us we are loved—even when we don’t feel beautiful—thank you for your unwavering support during this wild journey.
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In summary, Jenna’s post captures the essence of what many women feel about intimacy during pregnancy—it’s a perplexing mix of exhaustion, self-doubt, and the unwavering support from a partner that keeps the spark alive.