Holidays can be a challenging time for families with children on the autism spectrum. The combination of school breaks, large family gatherings, and stimulating environments can create a perfect storm of stress and sensory overload. As a parent of twin boys with autism, I’ve faced my share of holiday chaos. Here’s how we’ve managed to keep our spirits up and our sanity intact during these festive times.
Arrive Early to Settle In
Getting to your destination before the crowd can make a significant difference. Arriving early allows your child to acclimate to the new environment without the pressure of the hustle and bustle. For my sons, transitioning from the car to a family member’s house can take time, so we ensure plenty of time for them to adjust.
Pack Familiar Foods
When it comes to food, it’s crucial to bring items your child will actually eat. For us, that usually means a simple fruit salad—just fruit, no extras. In the past, we’ve brought everything from turkey sandwiches to chicken nuggets to ensure our boys have something they are comfortable with. It may not be the traditional holiday meal, but at least no one goes hungry.
Consider Hosting Gatherings
While hosting can require more planning, it often proves to be less stressful for our family. By inviting relatives to our home, we can create a familiar environment for our children. Plus, it’s easier to keep an eye on them and provide activities that will keep them engaged. Encourage guests to bring a dish, so you don’t feel overwhelmed with cooking.
Bring Along Engaging Activities
Having familiar games or activities on hand is essential. We often bring our gaming console, allowing the boys to enjoy their favorite games while the adults chat. This keeps them occupied and out of trouble, preventing situations that could lead to overstimulation or frustration.
Designate a Quiet Eating Space
During holiday meals, it’s often necessary to have a quiet area for your child to eat and unwind. If the main dining area is too loud or chaotic, find a quieter corner or even a separate room where they can enjoy their meal without distraction. For example, I know a family whose kids found solace in eating cereal in the pantry during gatherings.
Maintain a Routine Whenever Possible
The holiday season disrupts regular schedules, which can elevate anxiety for both parents and children. Try to stick to familiar routines, even if it means stepping away from festivities for a while. On one occasion, I took my son out for a drive to drop off recyclables—an activity that is part of our Thursday routine. This small act helped him feel more centered.
Communicate Your Needs
Being open about what you need can make a significant difference. Whether it’s help managing sensory overload or simply having someone understand your child’s quirks, most family members want to support you. Don’t hesitate to ask for what you need to ensure a smoother holiday experience.
Prepare for the Unexpected
Holidays can be unpredictable, and it’s essential to know when to leave if things become too overwhelming. My husband and I have learned to recognize when it’s time to exit a gathering to prevent meltdowns, even if it means leaving early.
Practice Gratitude
Amidst the chaos, it’s important to find moments of gratitude. Appreciate the time spent with family, however stressful it may be. Celebrate the little victories, like a successful nap or a child who manages to stay calm. Remember the funny moments, like when your son joyfully swiped a roll from a relative’s plate.
So go ahead, treat yourself to a well-deserved glass of wine when you finally get home. You’ve earned it.
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In summary, surviving the holidays with autism in the house requires preparation, communication, and a focus on what works best for your family. With these tips, you can create a more enjoyable holiday experience for everyone involved.
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