Dear Diner Server Who Cheered on My Public Nursing,
“I saw you breastfeeding your little one, and I just wanted to say—good for you! Thank you for having the courage to nurse in public.”
You may not realize it, but that moment reignited my flickering hope in humanity.
You didn’t know that our home is 40 miles from the closest grocery store, and we had driven nearly two hours for our monthly grocery run. You were unaware that our baby hadn’t fed since we left the house that morning. This trip to town was more than just shopping; it was a family outing for my husband and our three kids. And truth be told, I was in a bit of a funk thanks to the behavior of fellow shoppers.
Yet, on that Sunday afternoon, you greeted us with a bright smile and excellent service. After we finished our meal, you brought the check and took a moment to thank me for breastfeeding in public. I was taken aback as you expressed admiration for my decision to do something so natural, yet often debated. You shared how frustrating it is to see anti-public breastfeeding posts online, and you thanked me again.
Here you were, exuding grace and wisdom that seemed well beyond your years. I would have expected such insight from someone more seasoned—perhaps someone like the elderly gentleman I encountered just before meeting you. Instead of a kind nod, he responded to my smile with a curt “I was here first.” I was taken aback, especially since I had just been trying to make room for our carts to pass.
Sadly, such rudeness has become a stereotype of my generation, often seen as entitled and disrespectful. Yet, I didn’t let his behavior dampen my spirit. I thought, if this is the example set for future generations, it’s no wonder we face such labels.
Then, in walks you—thirteen years my junior, with no children of your own, yet you took the time to recognize and appreciate my public nursing. Instead of me expressing gratitude for your attentive service, you were genuinely thanking me. You have no idea how much you brightened my day, lifted my spirits, and restored my faith in humanity.
So, to you, the diner server who celebrated my right to nurse in public: thank you for your kindness!
Warmly,
Your grateful nursing customer, Jamie
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In summary, this letter expresses heartfelt gratitude to a waitress who uplifted my spirits during a challenging day by supporting my right to breastfeed in public. Her kindness stood in stark contrast to the rudeness I encountered earlier, reminding me that compassion still exists in the world.