It seems like many of us are feeling a sense of loss right now—loss of words, hope, and even faith. I’m overwhelmed with feelings of helplessness, anger, injustice, and sadness. I’m not just worried about myself; my heart aches for my kids, especially those of color. I’m distressed for my Muslim friends and the entire Muslim community in this country. I fear for every survivor of sexual assault who now sees our leader as a reminder of their trauma. Honestly, it’s mortifying.
Is it too soon to seek the silver lining? It feels like we should be allowed to grieve for a while. The stages of grief aren’t a race; some of us might find it hard to navigate this process, especially in the coming years. But we must try.
Yes, we may find ourselves stuck in anger or denial, refusing to budge. We need time to process what just happened—not just to our nation but to our children’s futures. But time is a luxury we don’t have; we’ve got work to do.
Sure, it would be nice to curl up under the covers and tune out the chaos, away from the negativity and the I-told-you-sos. A four-year-long nap sounds appealing, but that’s not an option. We must wake up—immediately.
We need to move ahead. We must leave behind those who thrive on hatred and instead rise up with strength and compassion. We need to unite—mothers, professionals, fighters, warriors, survivors, nurturers, and educators. This presidency has been traumatic for many, particularly those from marginalized communities. We need to reach out and support our Muslim neighbors, stand up for “Black Lives Matter” and “Native Lives Matter,” and advocate for “Our body, our choice.” If you can, donate to these vital causes. We need to watch out for each other, listen, and keep each other safe. It’s crucial to model progressive values for our children.
I know this sounds great in theory. I understand it’s easier said than done. If only I could wave a magic wand and create a collective understanding! Unfortunately, I’m just a regular person, not a magician. But as a therapist, I know about “reframing.” This concept allows us to view a situation initially perceived as negative from a different perspective to find a more positive outcome. While it’s not always easy and requires practice, it is possible.
I’m choosing to reframe now. I feel I have no other option, and I challenge you to do the same. I refuse to contribute to the hate surrounding us. I must do right by my children. Where our new leader falls short, I’ll step up and teach them to love and accept, while also preparing them for the harsh realities of life, because this world can indeed be cruel.
However, in my reframing, I also want to acknowledge the beauty in this world and the goodness in people. We need to find strength in those around us and lean on one another. This is a true test of our time. So, where do we go from here? We keep moving forward, spreading love. Regardless of who is in charge, I won’t let negativity harden me. There’s still good in this world, and we must rise together. Yes, tough lessons lie ahead, but we must hold on to hope.
I know it feels like it’s too soon. I understand it’s challenging. But we can do this—together.
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In summary, we’re facing a critical moment as a nation, and while the road ahead may be daunting, we can choose to approach it with love, support, and a commitment to progress.