According to Dr. Samuel Gibbons, a professor of anthropology and evolutionary biology at Brookstone University and author of How Men Age: Insights from Evolution, chubby “older fathers tend to live longer, are often more appealing to women, and are better at passing on their genes” than their leaner counterparts who obsess over their physique. Wait, what? A man actually wrote a book endorsing the dad bod? Seriously?
Believe it or not, it’s true. Dr. Gibbons suggests that these fathers are less prone to heart issues and prostate cancer. “Chasing the macho image can be detrimental to your health,” he states. He also argues that gaining a bit of weight might actually make dads more invested in their children rather than pursuing other romantic interests, and that extra weight could make them more attractive to women. That “could” is there for a reason, I suppose.
For those who may not be in the loop, the dad bod meme exploded a year ago when a 19-year-old student named Lily Harper wrote an article for her university’s publication titled “Why Women Adore the Dad Bod.” She argued that women prefer men whose physiques show “a comfortable blend of a beer belly and regular gym visits” over those with chiseled abs. Suddenly, fathers with a little extra padding found themselves with more justifications for finishing off their kids’ leftovers.
But let’s face it: women are left to ponder why there isn’t a similar appreciation for the mom bod. And that’s the all-too-real downside of this research. It highlights a glaring double standard.
As a dad in my mid-30s, I can’t help but take a moment to reflect on how this research suggests my belly signifies a lower testosterone level and a profound commitment to my family. Apparently, my extra weight means I’m a better father, more devoted, and less likely to stray. But what do these same traits mean for mothers? We all know the answer, and it’s frustrating.
I’ve witnessed my partner endure three pregnancies, waddling around the house, sleepless nights, and countless doctor visits, only to be bombarded with societal pressure to shed the baby weight and look like she did before kids.
I’m no anthropologist, but this double standard doesn’t add up. Dr. Gibbons’ observations about how a man’s weight reflects his commitment to family could easily apply to mothers too. Just this week, comedian Max Rivers humorously noted that “A great father might meet 40% of a child’s needs at best, while even a subpar mother can meet 200%.”
While that’s meant to be a laugh, it underscores a reality: mothers often bear the brunt of family responsibilities, even in 2023. They deserve respect and recognition for their bodies. After all, they create life, bring it into the world, and nurture it until the little ones finally leave the nest.
If we could visualize a mother’s love and dedication through photos, showcasing her stretch marks and C-section scars, she’d be celebrated on every magazine cover. A flat stomach and perfect figure might look good on paper, but many men I know find their partners’ strength and dedication makes them more attractive than any gym-toned physique.
So, science has legitimized the Dad Bod. Congrats, dads! But what does that really mean for you? Does it give you a pass to skip the gym? Or is it simply a reminder to embrace your body while your partner might not have that same luxury?
Sure, it’s tempting to throw this research at your partner and say, “Look at this!” But do you genuinely need validation? Isn’t it more important to appreciate everything that mothers endure—childbirth, unconditional love, and partnership—regardless of body shape?
Instead of insisting on societal standards, let’s lift each other up. Compliment your partner, share your admiration, and support one another. Toss out the double standards, because what truly matters is love, empathy, and teamwork in navigating family life together.
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Summary
This article discusses the benefits of the “dad bod,” as highlighted by research from Dr. Samuel Gibbons, who argues that extra weight in fathers can indicate a deeper investment in family life and overall better health. However, it also points out the double standard faced by mothers, who often don’t receive the same appreciation for their bodies post-pregnancy. The piece calls for a more balanced recognition of both parents’ efforts and encourages mutual support and admiration in relationships, regardless of body shape.