What Should Parents Do When They Receive That School Phone Call?

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Most of us have faced it at least once—the dreaded call from the school. Whether it’s the principal or a teacher on the line, one thing is clear: your little angel has made a mistake (gasp!). So, how do you react? Are you itching to hear every detail? Do you jump to your child’s defense before understanding the full story? Or do you ask questions like, “What prompted this behavior?” because surely, your child couldn’t misbehave without a reason, right?

Receiving that call can feel like a gut punch. It’s embarrassing and might make you question your parenting skills. When our kids mess up, we often think it reflects on us. Sure, there might be some truth to that, but the real issue could be how we respond to their misbehavior. Instead of recognizing that mistakes are a part of growing up and that our kids need to take responsibility, many of us instinctively deflect, defend, or justify their actions. This approach usually does more harm than good.

So, what should you do when you get that call?

Stay Calm and Composed:

The initial news can hit hard for any parent. It’s crucial to keep your cool. Remember, you aren’t the one who made the mistake—your child is. Avoid downplaying the issue, and try to handle the situation with a level head. Your composure sets the tone for how to address the situation with teachers or administrators, who dislike making those calls as much as you dislike receiving them.

Take the Teacher’s Perspective Seriously:

Listen carefully to the account given by the teacher or administrator. It’s essential to consider that your child might not be entirely truthful to escape consequences. Let’s face it: kids can stretch the truth, downplay events, or provide a laundry list of excuses. They might even leave out key details. Good kids do this out of fear of disappointing their parents. Focus on the facts of the behavior rather than the reasons behind it—those discussions can come later.

Believe in Your Child, Too:

While it’s important to listen to the teacher, you also need to demand honesty from your child. Teach them to own up to their mistakes; accountability is a crucial step in their development. Don’t get sidetracked by other kids’ actions—your child’s behavior is what matters.

Support the Consequences:

Present a united front when it comes to discipline. If the teacher has imposed a punishment, such as losing recess privileges or writing an apology, stand by that decision. Don’t negotiate or make exceptions. You are not their attorney. Feel free to implement additional consequences at home if necessary, but keep it proportional to the “crime.” Remember, they didn’t misbehave at home.

Discuss Natural Consequences:

If you’ve suspected your child isn’t a model student, it might be time for a heart-to-heart about natural consequences. If their friends are avoiding them, help them understand that it might relate to their behavior—like hogging the ball during games. Approach these discussions with love and understanding.

Develop Strategies Together:

Some kids act out when they feel unheard or overwhelmed. If there are underlying social or learning challenges, they might disrupt class to avoid facing difficult tasks. Identify the root cause of their behavior without excusing it, and work on strategies for improvement. Remember, it’s about collaboration with teachers to correct behavior, not confrontation.

Childhood is all about learning through mistakes, whether it’s lying, teasing, or disruptive behavior. When we stop viewing our children’s misdeeds as reflections of our parenting, we can help them grow into respectful, responsible adults. Our job is to remain calm and not let our insecurities cloud our response. Kids need to learn to accept their mistakes, and as parents, we should embrace these opportunities to guide them toward better choices, rather than defending or deflecting their misbehavior.

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Summary:

When that phone call from school comes, it’s vital for parents to remain calm and composed. Listen to the teacher’s account while also encouraging your child to own up to their mistakes. Support the consequences laid out by the school, discuss natural consequences, and work together on strategies for better behavior. Remember, mistakes are part of growing up, and our role is to guide our children toward accountability.

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