Parenting
by Jamie Taylor
My daughter just started preschool this fall, and now my fridge is adorned with her colorful art projects, while I’m treated to daily tales of her adventures with friends and teachers alike. Recently, I received my first letter about photo day, and it made me think: When did my little girl grow up enough to have school pictures?
Initially, I found myself pondering what she should wear and how to style her hair for the big day. But then I quickly recalled a vital lesson I strive to impart to my children: Be yourself. Always. It’s essential for them to embrace their individuality regardless of external opinions.
Many parents work hard to nurture this idea, hoping their kids will grow up as their true selves, not as someone molded by society’s expectations. So, I paused and asked myself, why was I stressing over making her look perfect for photo day?
Before she even knew that picture day was a thing, I was already planning her outfit, styling her hair, and even organizing a crumb-free breakfast to avoid any mishaps. I wanted her to look flawless and camera-ready for her very first school photos, because that’s the norm, right? Generations of parents have selected the perfect outfits and hairstyles, all in hopes of capturing their kids looking presentable for the world. After all, these pictures will be shared with teachers, friends, and family for years to come.
While this mindset is common and understandable, I’m choosing to stick to the lesson I cherish about embracing authenticity. This time, for photo day, my daughter—and next year, my son—can choose their own outfits. If she wants to rock a striped dress with a polka dot sweater and a rainbow headband, that’s perfectly fine. If her hair has that wind-blown look from a raucous recess, so be it. And if she has a bruise from a tussle with her brother, that’s just part of being a 4-year-old.
I really don’t care if she doesn’t look like she stepped off a beauty pageant stage for her school pictures. I want her captured as she is every day: a little girl whose hair is a bit messy, who picks her own clothes, who plays hard and loves even harder. She doesn’t need to be pristine for her school photos; after all, 4-year-olds aren’t exactly known for their immaculate appearances.
I want my kids to grow up unconcerned about what others think of their appearance or choices in style, and that lesson starts at home. This philosophy should apply every day—not just on picture day. The beauty of photo day lies in the ability to look back in 10, 15, or even 20 years and see a girl who radiated from within, even if her outfit didn’t quite match.
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In summary, I’d rather my kids be their genuine selves rather than striving for perfection on picture day. The memories captured should reflect who they truly are, not just a polished version of themselves.