Dear Mom,
I can only imagine the whirlwind of emotions you experience. My kids are all grown up and don’t have a stepmom, while your little ones are navigating life with me as their stepmother. We’ve crossed paths, but we’ve never really talked. I’m sure you have questions about me and wonder if your kids are safe in my care. It must be tough to send them off with me during our weekends or holidays.
Let me reassure you: I absolutely adore your kids. They’re truly amazing, and you deserve all the credit for raising them well. Sure, they can be a handful at times (what kids aren’t?), but I love them like they’re my own. I whip up their favorite meals, cater to their sometimes picky tastes, and help them wash the conditioner out of their hair. I tuck them in at night, kiss their foreheads, and hold their hands while crossing the street. I’m there for the little moments, like kissing their boo-boos and offering comfort when they need it. I plan fun activities and hang on to every word they say. I throw the football with your son and even polish your daughter’s nails.
What I don’t do, though, is discipline them. That’s their dad’s role, and I respect that. I’m never mean, belittling, or dismissive. I have no intention of stepping on your toes or undermining your authority. I want to be someone you can trust.
Your children show me they care. They tell me they love me and often bring you up, whether it’s pointing out something at the market they think you’d like or reminding me that my chicken fried steak doesn’t hold a candle to yours. They miss you, especially during longer stays.
I know things can be complex between you and their dad, but remember the love you once shared. You saw the wonderful qualities in him that I see every day. He’s an amazing dad who lights up when they arrive and feels sad when it’s time to return them. He shares stories about them with me, hugs them, and tells them he loves them whenever he can. He reassures them that it’s okay to love me, and that doesn’t diminish their love for you. How fortunate are these kids to have four parents who care so deeply when some children only have one?
So please, rest easy when they’re with me. I promise to protect them, to treat them as I would want my own children treated. I will love them—not in the way you do, because a mother’s love is irreplaceable—but as a stepmother, which is a love that’s pretty significant too.
Sincerely,
Stepmom
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In summary, this letter reflects the heartfelt sentiments of a stepmom aiming to bridge the gap and foster trust with the biological mother of her stepchildren, highlighting love, respect, and shared responsibilities.