Right now, many of us feel like we’re in a fog — grappling with feelings of loss, confusion, and despair. I can’t help but feel helpless, angry, and heartbroken. It’s not just my own worries that weigh me down; I’m deeply concerned about my kids, especially my children of color, and the broader community that’s been marginalized. I also feel for my friends who practice Islam and for every survivor of assault who must confront a leader who symbolizes their trauma. Honestly, it’s downright horrifying.
It might seem too early to look for silver linings. Shouldn’t we take time to mourn? The stages of grief aren’t quick, and it’s hard to imagine us fully processing our feelings about what’s happening in our country over the next four years. Yet, we have to try.
We might find ourselves stuck in anger or sadness, hesitant to move forward. But we don’t have the luxury of time to wallow. We have work to do. Sure, we might want to retreat under the covers and ignore the reality of social media, the naysayers, and the divisive sentiments floating around. It’s tempting to wish for a four-year-long hibernation. But we can’t afford that. It’s time for us as a nation to wake up — and fast.
We need to push ahead. We must leave behind those who thrive on hatred and instead rise up with strength and compassion. We need to unite as mothers, professionals, advocates, and allies. This presidency is a traumatic experience for many, especially those in marginalized communities, and we must step up. We need to support our Muslim American friends, stand up for Black and Native lives, and advocate for bodily autonomy. If we can, we should contribute to these causes, look out for each other, and ensure that we model progressive values for our children.
I understand that this all sounds great in theory. It’s much easier said than done. I wish I could magically create a shared understanding, but I’m not a wizard — just an everyday person trying to make sense of things. In therapy, we talk about “reframing,” which means looking at a situation from a different angle to find a more positive outcome. It’s not always easy, and it takes practice, but it’s possible.
Right now, I’m choosing to reframe. I have no other option. I won’t let the negativity around me take over. I must focus on raising my kids with love and compassion, ensuring they are strong enough to face a tough world while keeping their hearts open. But as I reframe, I also recognize the beauty that exists in this world. There are so many good people out there — I must lean on them, and we must lean on each other.
This is the ultimate challenge of our time. Where do we go from here? We keep moving forward, spreading love and hope. No matter who’s in charge, I refuse to be hardened by their actions or to lose faith in the goodness around us. Together, we can rise above and learn valuable lessons, keeping hope alive.
I know it feels early, and I know it’s tough. But we can do this — together.
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In summary, we are at a pivotal moment where we must choose to reframe our perspectives and move forward collectively, supporting one another through the challenges ahead.