Updated: April 4, 2023
Originally Published: October 10, 2012
Once upon a time, I was the epitome of allure. But before you roll your eyes, this isn’t a tale of a middle-aged woman lamenting her faded looks. My past beauty is merely a backdrop for what I genuinely want to discuss: my husband’s unwavering character.
The Beginning of Our Journey
Let’s start from the beginning: my husband was initially drawn to me for my looks. It was a fleeting encounter—just a brief conversation before he asked me out. He didn’t know anything about me. I could have been a total disaster or just plain difficult to be around. But at that moment, all he saw was an attractive woman.
And let’s be honest; I was equally superficial, agreeing to a date after just ten minutes of talking. I didn’t know if he was kind, funny, or even safe. But wow—did he have a nice physique.
So, we both entered this relationship with a healthy dose of physical attraction. But here we are, twelve years later, still happily together despite the undeniable changes in our appearance over the years.
How We’ve Stayed Together
You might be wondering, “How have you stayed together through it all?” Well, the answer lies in my husband’s remarkable fortitude of character.
It didn’t take long for him to discover my quirky habits and idiosyncrasies. Perhaps he should have run for the hills after realizing them, but he didn’t. His patience has allowed him to navigate through these little quirks:
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Despite my previous allure, I struggle to see myself as attractive, which leads to frustrating conversations like this:
Him: “You look beautiful today.”
Me: “Not even close.”
Him: “…”
Me: “I feel bloated, and my hair looks like a bird’s nest.”
Him: “Well, I think you’re stunning.”
Me: “That’s just desperation talking.”
FIVE MINUTES LATER:
Me (in tears): “Why don’t you find me attractive anymore?!”
Him: *face palm*
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I tend to say “No” to nearly every one of his requests. Hold on—before you get upset, I usually come around quickly, so he often gets his way in the end. But that initial “No” drives him up the wall.
Him: “Can I buy some parts for my bike?”
Me: “No way. We’re broke.”
Him: “What if I sell some things?”
Me: “Nope. Let’s fix that leaky toilet instead.”
Him: “But…”
Me: “No.”
Him: “…”
Me: “No.”
FIVE MINUTES LATER:
Him: “Are you sure I can’t get my bike parts?”
Me: “Fine.”
Him: *face palm*
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I have a flair for the dramatic. Some might even call me a “drama queen.” My overreactions can be quite comical, especially when it comes to bugs.
Me: “AHHHHHHHHH!”
Him: “What’s wrong?”
Me: “There’s a spider in the bathroom!”
Him: “Just kill it.”
Me: “I can’t move; it might attack me!”
Him: *face palm*
That’s just a glimpse into my quirks, and I must admit I have many more that my husband tolerates with incredible patience. I haven’t even touched on my resting grumpy face, my long list of health issues, or my disinterest in cooking.
Despite all this, my husband has proven to be an incredible partner. While he may have initially been attracted to my appearance, it’s clear he now loves me for who I am. He’s committed to being by my side through thick and thin.
The evidence? Well, it’s all in the spider drama.
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Summary
My husband’s unwavering support and patience have been the cornerstone of our lasting relationship. What began as a superficial attraction has evolved into a profound love that withstands life’s inevitable changes.
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