According to Dr. Mark Johnson, a professor of anthropology and evolutionary biology at the University of Chicago and author of How Men Age: What Evolution Reveals About Male Health and Mortality, slightly plump “older fathers not only tend to live longer but are also more appealing to women and have a better shot at passing on their genes” compared to their fit counterparts who obsess over their physiques. Seriously? A guy actually wrote a book giving credence to the dad bod? Unbelievable!
But it’s true. Dr. Johnson points out that these men often face a lower risk of heart disease and prostate cancer. “Being overly macho can be detrimental to your health,” he claims. He also argues that a bit of extra weight might encourage dads to focus more on their kids instead of seeking new romantic interests, while the added fat could potentially increase their attractiveness to women. The word “could” is serving a purpose here, I presume.
For those who might be a bit out of the loop, the dad bod became a sensation a while back when a college student named Sarah Winters wrote a piece for her university’s blog titled “Why Women Adore the Dad Bod.” She suggested that ladies are often more drawn to men whose bodies strike a balance between a beer belly and regular exercise rather than those chiselled Adonis types. Suddenly, dads everywhere had a newfound excuse to polish off their kids’ crusts of bread.
Of course, there’s a flip side to this phenomenon. Once again, women are left wondering why there isn’t a similar appreciation for the mom bod. And let’s be real, that’s the saddening truth behind this scientific revelation. It reinforces a double standard.
As a father of three in my mid-30s, I’ve come to understand that my dad bod supposedly signifies lower testosterone levels and a profound commitment to my family. All this extra weight and age supposedly make me a better parent—more devoted and less likely to stray. But what do those same traits say about mothers?
We all know the answer, and it’s frustrating. I’ve witnessed my partner endure pregnancy three times, waddling around the house, battling sleepless nights, and making frequent trips to the bathroom, only to have society demand she shed the baby weight and look like a fresh-faced college student again.
Let’s be clear: I’m not an anthropologist, but this double standard doesn’t sit well with me. Dr. Johnson’s claims about how a little extra weight on men reflects their commitment to family are traits that mothers possess in abundance. Just this week, comedian Tom Richards jokingly remarked on the role of mothers, saying, “A great dad can provide about 40% of a kid’s needs at best. A mother—even a mediocre one—gives 200%.” Although he was being funny, it’s true that mothers often shoulder the majority of family responsibilities, even in 2023.
This should be recognized. If anyone deserves accolades for their body, it’s mothers. They create life, bring it into the world, and nurture it until those little ones finally leave the nest. If only we could showcase the love mothers have for their children and their dedication to family, with stretch marks and C-section scars illuminated, mothers would grace the covers of every magazine.
A flat tummy and perky breasts may look appealing on paper, but many men, including myself, are in awe of the strength and beauty of their partners, which often has little to do with their body shape.
So, science has officially endorsed the Dad Bod. Congrats, dads! But does that mean it’s time to kick back and skip the gym? Or is this really about feeling comfortable in our skin, while mothers are denied that privilege?
I understand the temptation to flaunt this research to your partner and say, “Look at this!” But do you really need validation? Did this study reveal anything new that society hasn’t been pushing for years?
What’s more important is for fathers to recognize the hard work mothers put into raising a family. They should appreciate their partners for everything they do, from childbirth to unconditional love. Acknowledging each other’s efforts, regardless of body shape, is vital. Compliment her on how beautiful she is, and you’ll likely receive the same in return. Let’s toss this research, along with the double standard, into the trash. What we truly need is love, compassion, empathy, and partnership—those are the foundations that sustain marriages and families.
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Summary
New research suggests that the dad bod has its benefits, such as longer life expectancy and increased attractiveness to women. However, this revelation highlights the double standard faced by mothers, who often bear the brunt of parenting expectations despite their hard work and sacrifices. Rather than letting societal norms dictate perceptions of body image, couples should focus on mutual appreciation and support.