When I was 14, I stumbled upon the fact that my mom was sneaking peeks at my diary. Let me tell you, I was furious. Imagine my shock when I realized she was reading my deepest, most angst-ridden thoughts, especially the ones where I vented about how much I detested her ridiculous rules. You know, typical teenage rebellion in the early ’90s—green hair, combat boots, and the occasional cigarette break in the school restroom.
Fast forward to today, and as a parent of a pre-teen, I find myself in a somewhat similar situation regarding my son’s smartphone. The dilemma is clear: to read or not to read? Now that I’ve grown up and reflect on how exposed I felt back then, my answer is unequivocal—I dive right into that digital world.
The Role of a Tech Detective
Here’s the deal: I feel justified in my role as a tech detective because these are electronic devices we’re talking about. Back in my day, I didn’t have the vast internet at my fingertips while I scribbled in my diary. Today, my son has the potential to broadcast his thoughts to hundreds of “friends” online in a heartbeat. That’s a whole different ball game.
When we finally decided to give my son his first smartphone, we laid down the ground rules. I gave him a little pep talk that went something like this: “Here’s your phone. It’s technically ours, and you get to use it for communication and fun, provided you keep up with your grades, extracurriculars, and religious studies. I will be checking this phone regularly, and yes, that includes every text, Snapchat, Instagram post, and email. If there’s anything you wouldn’t want me to see, maybe it shouldn’t be sent.” This upfront conversation transformed what could have been viewed as an invasion of privacy into a way for me to ensure he and his friends don’t get into trouble. Plus, I’d much rather talk to him about these topics than have his buddies fill him in—yikes!
Trust and Caution
It’s not that I don’t trust my son; it’s everyone else I’m wary of. Handing my child the keys to global technology without guidance feels like a recipe for chaos. I mean, I certainly don’t want him to end up like Anthony Weiner, and spoiler alert: I don’t.
In this digital age, privacy is a concept that’s rapidly changing, especially with kids able to share their lives at the touch of a button. If my son were to keep a handwritten journal tucked away in his room? That’s off-limits for me.
Further Reading
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In summary, while I keep a close eye on my son’s phone, I do so with the intention of protecting him in this vast digital landscape. It’s all about striking a balance between trust and guidance in our tech-savvy world.