I’ve been lucky enough to be married for nearly two decades, which has taught me a thing or two about love and relationships—though I certainly don’t claim to be an expert. My gratitude runs deep for a marriage that I’m proud for my children to witness, one that they might aspire to emulate in their own lives.
So, how have we made this work? Quite simply, we put in the effort. We recognize that marriage requires daily maintenance—much like that stubborn rose bush that produces the most beautiful blooms but demands constant care. We treat our relationship as a finely tuned machine: it may require a tune-up from time to time (and yes, sometimes it breaks down), but it’s never so irreparable that we’d consider replacing it. I hope my kids are picking up on the little things that keep our “marriage machine” running smoothly.
-
Disagreements are Normal
We argue and then reconcile, and we don’t feel the need to conceal it from our kids. It’s crucial to demonstrate respectful and constructive conflict. Seeing us disagree openly teaches them that love can withstand disagreements. Sometimes, we even go to bed upset (shocking, I know!). We show them that it’s okay to take a breather and approach issues with fresh perspectives rather than hashing things out all night. Pretending to be perfect in front of your children sets an unrealistic standard for relationships. -
Financial Conversations are Key
We openly discuss our financial decisions, including why we spend, save, and sometimes can’t afford certain things. Keeping money matters a secret creates financial illiteracy in our kids. They need to understand budgeting, savings, and the value of money, even if it might seem boring to them. You can also check out resources like this link for more information on financial planning during family planning. -
Engage in Political Dialogue
We talk about political issues together, staying informed and challenging each other’s views. In this time of uncertainty, it’s easy to disengage, but that sends a poor message to our kids. Discussing difficult topics and candidates in front of them teaches them the importance of civic engagement. After all, these kids will eventually shape the world we live in, so it’s essential they see us care. -
Show Affection Daily
Affection is crucial, and we make sure our kids see us express it—every single day. This isn’t just about love; it’s about reinforcing that relationships thrive on physical closeness. They notice when we hold hands in the car or share a hug before leaving the house. Plus, a little public display of affection makes them squirm, sending them scurrying off for some private space—perfect for you two to enjoy some quality time! -
Play to Your Strengths
We both embrace what we do best and what brings us joy without any guilt. My partner, Sam, has his strengths, and I have mine. I chose to step back from full-time work to manage the household, as it’s where I find my bliss. Whether you’re both working or switching roles, knowing and respecting each other’s contributions is vital for a happy marriage. This is a valuable lesson for our kids as they develop their own relationships.
Ultimately, your marriage serves as the first—and perhaps only—example of real love your children will witness. Love your partner fiercely, and let your kids see that passion without shame or regret. These powerful memories will guide them when they embark on their own romantic journeys.
For more insights, consider checking out this link or explore excellent resources like this link for pregnancy and home insemination.
Summary
Your marital relationship is a template for your children’s future. Through healthy conflict, open financial discussions, political engagement, daily affection, and embracing each other’s strengths, you can model a love that lasts.