Dear Parents,
As someone who once stood on the other side of the table as a job coach and prevocational teacher, I owe you an apology. I’m sorry for not fully grasping what it means to be a parent, especially when navigating the complexities of autism. While I always cared for my students, I now recognize that my perspective was limited.
I regret that when you came to me, you were likely already exhausted from the trials of autism. My youthful, ambitious mindset, fresh from college, may have seemed either annoying or perhaps offered a glimmer of hope. I hope it was the latter, but I can now see why my enthusiasm might have been met with skepticism. After having my own child and witnessing some young teachers who barely look old enough to order a drink, I understand your concerns and frustrations more than ever.
I apologize for the days when I showed up at work without the energy to give my all. Life outside the classroom sometimes distracted me. Whether it was a late night out, a cold I was shaking off, or just feeling burnt out, I regret those moments when I thought I could “phone it in.” Working with people requires full engagement, and I failed to meet that expectation for your child.
I’m also sorry for any moments when I looked at my student roster and thought, “Oh man. Them?” Each of those names represented unique individuals with their own personalities and challenges, deserving of the same respect I sought from them.
I wish I had maintained contact with some of you; your experiences and insights are invaluable, and I could certainly use your advice now. I apologize for ever expressing my fatigue because I now understand that the level of exhaustion that comes with raising a child with autism is on an entirely different scale.
I regret the joy I felt over unexpected snow days and vacations, as I now see how those disruptions can wreak havoc on your carefully established routines. If I ever showed you a look of condescending pity, I’m sorry. What you needed was empathy, not sympathy. To pity your circumstances would imply that your child was merely a challenge to be managed rather than a person deserving of understanding and respect.
Please know that I reflect on these experiences often and carry a sense of regret for not having done better. Your journey has shaped my understanding of parenting and teaching in ways I couldn’t have imagined back then.
I’m sorry.
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In conclusion, my experiences have taught me how vital it is to approach education and parenting with empathy and understanding. I deeply appreciate the challenges you face and hope to continue learning from you.
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