By: Jamie Rivera
Updated: Dec. 21, 2016
Originally Published: Sep. 28, 2016
There was a time when the words “kids” and “police violence” didn’t belong in the same conversation. Unfortunately, that’s not the world we live in anymore, especially for those of us raising children of color in urban neighborhoods (who’s with me on that?). Just recently, my son had a pleasant encounter with law enforcement while at a local shopping center with his cousins. An officer reminded the group about curfew, wishing them safety, and that was it. So how do I explain to my son that not every police officer is going to be as kind-hearted? How do I prepare him for the reality that as he grows, he may be seen as a threat? How do I let him know that even the lovely girl in his class could face violence from someone meant to protect her? It’s a heavy conversation, and while I don’t have all the answers, here are some essential points to consider when discussing police violence with kids.
1. Not All Officers Are Bad
Given the recent headlines, it’s easy to forget that there are officers, like the one my son encountered, who genuinely want to keep their communities safe and return home to their families. As a parent of kids of color, it’s challenging to recognize, but the truth is, not every cop is out to cause harm.
2. The Reality of Racism
When discussing police violence, we must address the ugly truth that some individuals harbor prejudice based solely on skin color. Ignoring this fact would mean overlooking a significant aspect of the issues surrounding police brutality, as many victims are targeted due to their race.
3. Girls Are Affected Too!
Let’s not forget the stories of young women like Zoe Carter, who faced aggression from police officers. Discussions about police violence can’t just focus on our sons; our daughters are also at risk. It’s crucial for boys to understand that they should not only protect themselves but also stand up for their sisters.
4. Start the Conversation Early
While it’s fine to skip the graphic details when discussing police violence with a young child, preparing them for the possibility of encountering or witnessing such events is vital. Kids like Tamir Rice and the girl who saw Philando Castile’s tragic incident highlight that these situations can affect children far younger than we think. It’s never too soon to begin these important conversations.
In today’s world, it’s imperative for all parents to engage in “The Talk” with their children about police interactions.
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Summary:
Discussing police violence with children is crucial, especially for those in marginalized communities. It’s important to highlight that not all officers are bad, acknowledge the realities of racism, include the experiences of girls, and start these conversations early. As parents, we need to equip our kids with the knowledge they need to navigate this complex world.