When our youngest son, Ethan, graduated from college, it marked the end of an era for me—a time when I managed everything from his allowance to his medical appointments, and even his thank you notes. Those days of being the all-in-one mom were behind me.
Reflecting on Ethan’s journey, I recall defining moments that shaped him into the man he is today. From the time he was just 18 months old, wearing glasses after undergoing surgery for a lazy eye, to his first day of kindergarten where he met friends he still cherishes, each step was significant. I remember when he walked to school alone for the first time at age eight, and his triumphant moment hitting a triple in little league at age 14. It was bittersweet when, at 15, he said goodbye to his beloved grandfather, and at 17, he faced a heartbreaking injury that sidelined him during the best sports season of his life.
Fast forward to nearly 22, and Ethan was on the cusp of graduation with a job he was genuinely excited about. If someone had told me four years earlier, when we dropped him off at college, that he’d thrive, I would have had my doubts. He appeared somewhat unfocused, and I worried about the challenges he’d face living in a dorm, particularly with a roommate he didn’t get along with.
My husband and I found ourselves hovering, trying to preemptively solve every obstacle that might come his way, much like the helicopter parents we had vowed not to be. However, after Ethan transitioned to community college for a semester and made the wise choice to return to university, we finally did something smart: we let him be.
This didn’t mean we stopped being supportive or caring. We remained available for calls, and our concern never waned. But we made the conscious decision to step back and allow him to navigate his own path. It was as if we adjusted the focus of a camera lens, bringing his potential into clearer view.
What we often need to do for our older children, especially those who seem a bit lost, is to trust them. Encourage them to carve their own paths, allowing them to make mistakes and learn from them. This process fosters their independence and passion, helping them to grow stronger and more self-sufficient. Ultimately, the best thing we can do is to let them go.
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In summary, the most empowering choice we made as parents was to step back, trust Ethan’s abilities, and allow him to discover his own way. This journey not only helped him grow but also taught us valuable lessons about letting go.
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