There was a time when we were those wide-eyed newlyweds, brimming with dreams and endless possibilities. Back then, I had no clue what married life and parenting would truly entail — especially the chaos of juggling both. I imagined date nights that were fancy dinners rather than late-night games of Stratego or binge-watching movies on Sundays. I certainly didn’t anticipate that we’d develop a secret language made up of sighs, groans, and laughter — a language that said everything without uttering a single word. And honestly, I never thought I could miss you so deeply while sharing the same roof.
But here we are, and I do miss you.
Even though we share a bed, a life, and the occasional stolen moments of solitude, there are stretches of time when life just gets too hectic. Your long hours at work coincide with mine, and soon we find ourselves wrapped up in the whirlwind of parenting and adulting. Those little humans — our kids — are relentless in their quest for our attention. Bosses and deadlines yell at us from our screens, while family and friends pull us in every direction imaginable. By the end of the day, all we can manage is to barely keep our eyes open while watching Jimmy Fallon for five minutes.
We understand that our marriage is the heart of our family, so we do our best to carve out moments for each other. We plan date nights and find time to watch movies together, and yes, we even indulge in the occasional kid-free getaway. Throughout the day, we send quick texts to check in or share silly memes to lighten the mood. We’ve become pros at making every minute count.
Yet, there are still days when the longing hits hard.
I miss the long, meandering conversations that could stretch on for hours. I miss those lazy Sunday mornings spent in bed, just enjoying each other’s company. I miss being able to complete a thought without being interrupted by a chorus of “Guess what, Dad?” or “Mom, can I have…” I crave those moments when we would take the train home from work together, diving into books side by side or savoring brunch without a care in the world.
I long for the simple things — seeing you, touching you, sharing the same space and air. I miss hearing about your day, the small details like what you had for lunch or how your commute was. And oh, how I miss your laugh.
You work tirelessly, dedicating long hours to provide for our family. You’re out there answering client emails, leading conference calls, and tackling all those courtroom challenges. Yet, you always manage to catch our son’s baseball game or play with our younger one. You balance it all, breaking up kiddo disputes and reminding them to brush their teeth, only to dive back into work after they’re tucked in.
I, too, hustle to keep our family afloat. I’m the one shuffling kids to school, swim lessons, and doctor appointments, squeezing in work wherever I can. Between homework, backpacks, and reminders for dental hygiene, I find myself at the computer long after the kids are asleep.
We’re both tirelessly contributing to our family in our own ways. Sometimes it feels like the universe is conspiring against us, keeping us from spending quality time together. Just when your schedule becomes manageable, mine spirals. One weekend I’m away, then you are, and before we know it, family visits add to the chaos. Just when we think we’ve got it figured out, life throws us a curveball.
But you know, this isn’t just us. This is the reality of adulthood, of being parents and partners. Everyone wants a piece of us, and we’re often stretched thin. As much as we want to focus on one another, those little humans who call us Mom and Dad often take precedence.
And yes, we miss each other.
Yet, perhaps this longing isn’t entirely negative. In missing you, I rediscover the passion and romance of our early days. It reminds me of how deeply I need you and how much love you pour into our family. In those moments of longing, I’m reassured that you’re still my one and only.
So until our next date night, our next stolen kiss, or cozy movie night, I’ll hold on to this feeling of missing you — a reminder of the love we share, even more profound than when we were those fresh-faced newlyweds.
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In summary, life can get busy, and sometimes we drift apart even while living together. Through the chaos of parenting and work, it’s easy to miss each other. However, this longing serves as a reminder of our love and the importance of our connection. Let’s cherish those little moments and look forward to the next time we can truly be together.