The other day, I was cruising in the car with my daughter when a female DJ on the radio referred to the new British Prime Minister, Lucy Green, as a “difficult” woman for not tolerating nonsense. Of course, we love to label women who stand their ground as “difficult.” I promptly switched off the radio and seized the moment to talk with my daughter about the strength of being a “difficult” woman.
I want her to be bold, to be unapologetically herself, and to embrace her inner girl boss—not to be confused with a bossy girl. I admire how she’s already mastered the art of not putting up with anyone’s nonsense at such a young age. Her stoicism is remarkable; she was born with it, and it radiates from her.
However, as she grows, I know she’ll face challenges that may test her self-assertiveness. I want her to always remember that she is the best person to be in charge of her own life. Here are seven ways I’m teaching her to confidently assert herself:
1. Own Your Body
That body belongs to you and you alone. You’re the one who decides when and how to share it. If you say “yes” and change your mind, that’s perfectly okay—your feelings matter. Dress for yourself, not for others’ approval. Ignore the naysayers who claim your style sends the wrong message. You wear what makes you feel like the best version of yourself.
2. Prioritize Your Needs
Speak up about what you want and take care of yourself. Don’t tie your happiness to anyone else. Depending on others for fulfillment often leads to disappointment. Discover what ignites your passion and take charge of your own joy—this is where the true magic lies.
3. Use Your Voice
Let your unique voice shine. Don’t adopt someone else’s opinions just to avoid conflict. The right people will appreciate the authentic you. While some may label you as bossy or difficult, don’t let that silence you; keep expressing your thoughts.
4. Honor Your Feelings
Acknowledge your emotions; they’re valid. Don’t push them aside, as they’ll only resurface later. Expressing your feelings in a healthy way is vital. Always trust your instincts about why you feel the way you do.
5. Own Your Actions
When you make mistakes—and trust me, you will—own up to them. Apologize if necessary and move forward. Don’t let peer pressure dictate your actions. Your choices reflect who you are, and if something feels wrong, it probably is.
6. Trust Your Intuition
Your intuition is your inner compass. When it speaks, listen closely; it never misleads you. This connection between your mind and soul is invaluable.
7. Share Your Opinions
You have a voice, so don’t hesitate to share your thoughts. It’s okay to express your views even during disagreements, but remember to do so with kindness. Sometimes emotions will run high, but think before you speak—what you say matters.
I know I’ll continue having these conversations with my daughter for years to come. I still remind myself of these lessons daily. It’s not easy to stand up for what you believe in or to express your needs, but it’s essential. If that means I’m seen as a difficult woman or a loudmouth, so be it. I’d rather my daughter see me as someone who boldly lives her truth than as someone who never had the courage to be herself.
In fact, many women labeled as “difficult” are often just busy getting things done. So yes, I’ll wear that label proudly, and I hope my daughter will too.
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