I’m a photographer by trade, but the reality is I juggle lenses more often than I juggle my work-life balance. My camera’s lenses provide different perspectives: some offer a broad view of the world, while others zoom in on the tiniest expressions. I have favorites for everyday snaps and quirky ones that twist reality into something fantastical, all for the sake of art.
Life mirrors this lens play; we constantly shift how we perceive our experiences. There are joy lenses, skeptical lenses, and yes, even overly critical lenses that warp our view of what’s real.
Finding Perspective in Parenthood
Take my friend Mia, for instance. She recently vented her frustrations about her three boys, none of whom are particularly gifted in the sleeping department. For five long years, her nights have been filled with wakefulness. Her youngest, a bundle of sweetness, stubbornly resists sleep like his brothers.
In her next post, she shared a photo of little Leo snoozing on her lap as she gently rubbed his back, captioning it, “Mom fail – 33,425,000.” But let me be clear: Mia is far from a failure. She’s one of the most dedicated people I know, and she’s poured her heart into everything that matters to her family. They’ve tried sleep training, consulted specialists, and even dabbled in oils and prayers. Yet here we are; she still feels like she’s falling short.
That feeling? It’s all part of the sleepless lens she’s wearing. Exhaustion can cloud our judgment, making us believe we’re failing when, in fact, we’re doing our best. When your world is illuminated by the harsh glare of fatigue, it’s easy to miss the subtleties and nuances that make up the bigger picture. Instead of seeing the beauty in the chaos, we fixate on the imperfections, desperately searching for flaws where there might be none.
The Weight of Perspective
Weight, diet, finances, relationships, and parenthood—all of these aspects shape our lenses. Some help us appreciate beauty, while others zoom in too closely on our perceived shortcomings.
So, if you’re feeling utterly drained—like, can’t-remember-the-last-time-you-slept-drained—I truly hope you have a strong support system. Friends who will uplift you when you’re hurting and celebrate with you when you’re happy. If you lack that support, know that your current perspective might be skewed. Your reality isn’t necessarily as bleak as it seems.
To my dear friend Mia, you are an incredible mom. Your husband cherishes you, and your boys adore you. Trust me, my lens captures your essence perfectly, and failure is not in the frame.
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Summary
This article reflects on the various perspectives we adopt as parents and how they can influence our feelings of failure or success. It emphasizes the importance of community support and understanding that our current lens can often distort reality. Ultimately, it reassures parents that they are doing their best, even when they feel overwhelmed.