Dear Family,
We adore you and cherish the role you play in our lives and the lives of our little ones. We genuinely want you to be part of our world and for our kids to build lasting memories with you. However, to make our time together enjoyable, we need to establish a few simple guidelines for our interactions. These aren’t meant to be heavy-handed or critical; rather, they’re a friendly way to ensure we all have a wonderful time together.
We’re not upset — we just need your support!
DO NOT Expect Hugs on Demand
Please don’t pressure our kids into giving hugs or feeling guilty if they don’t want to. To you, a hug might signify warmth and affection, but our children might not feel the same way, especially if they don’t see you often. We’re teaching them about bodily autonomy, which is super important for their development. A high-five or a friendly wave goes a long way!
DO Consider Thoughtful Gifts
While we appreciate your generosity, let’s focus on experiences rather than material items. Instead of another plastic toy that beeps, think about gifting an annual zoo pass or a fun day at the local children’s museum. Building toys and books are fantastic too, but let’s keep the clutter to a minimum!
DO Take the Kids Out Individually
Spending one-on-one time with each child is a gift they’ll treasure. Whether it’s a trip to the ice cream shop or a day at the park, these outings help strengthen your bond and make for great stories later.
DO Show Genuine Interest
Instead of the usual “How’s school?”, ask about their favorite shows or toys. Even toddlers have interests! Engage with them in their world — whether it’s playing with dolls or building Legos, your enthusiasm will be remembered and cherished.
DO NOT Undermine Our Parenting
If we say it’s bedtime, it’s bedtime — even if you think they can stay up longer. This can create confusion for the kids and can undermine our authority. Instead, come to us privately if you think they should stay up a bit longer; we might agree!
DO Support Our Parenting Choices
If we’re addressing misbehavior, feel free to back us up. A little reinforcement like “You should listen to your mom” can be very effective. Just wait until we’re done to step in, so we don’t feel undermined.
DO Discipline with Our Approach
If you need to step in while we’re not around, please follow our methods of discipline. If we talk about feelings instead of punishment, do that. Avoid any methods we’ve expressly said we don’t approve of — like spanking. Trust us, it’ll keep the peace.
DO Remember They’re Kids
Kids are going to be kids! If we’re waiting for a table and they start getting restless, try not to judge. Meltdowns happen, and that’s just a normal part of childhood.
By following these guidelines, we can foster a loving relationship that benefits everyone involved — parents, kids, and relatives alike. We truly appreciate your understanding and dedication to making our family time enjoyable.
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In summary, your support and understanding are crucial for nurturing our family relationships. We love you and look forward to making unforgettable memories together!