As I savored a cup of coffee with an old friend, she asked about my new career journey. After switching fields a few years back, I’ve dedicated myself to building a name in my profession, and I’m finally starting to see the fruits of my labor. My friend was thrilled to hear about my recent promotion, and as she wrapped me in a warm hug, I found myself minimizing my accomplishments. “Thanks, but it’s not that big of a deal,” I replied, quickly changing the subject.
I’ve reflected on that moment quite a bit lately. Why was it so challenging for me to fully embrace my achievements? Why didn’t I respond with enthusiasm, saying something like, “Absolutely! Let’s celebrate! I’m proud of what I’ve achieved. Thanks for recognizing my hard work!”
I’ve put in countless hours honing my skills in this new career, often sacrificing personal time and family responsibilities along the way. I’ve fought to make my mark in a highly competitive environment, and I’m genuinely good at what I do. I should be able to accept compliments from friends and colleagues without hesitation—after all, I’ve earned that right through determination and grit.
Yet, with every success, I find myself quietly congratulating my own efforts but struggling to accept praise from others. It’s as if I fear that acknowledging my success might come off as boastful. Nobody wants to be labeled a humblebragger, right?
I know I’m not alone in this struggle. I witness women around me deflecting compliments daily. Whether it’s a mom who organized a school event downplaying her role by saying, “I had a lot of help,” or a successful author who hesitates to share her book’s achievements, we tend to minimize our victories. We condition ourselves to be self-deprecating.
Why Are We Doing This to Ourselves?
We are powerful women achieving remarkable things, and we should take pride in our accomplishments. Whether it’s managing a household or excelling in our careers, we face challenges head-on and rise to the occasion.
We need to start embracing our successes. Let’s acknowledge that we are doing a fantastic job, whether it’s raising children or excelling in our careers. When we receive compliments, let’s own them. Say “thank you” and share the hard work that brought you to where you are. Embrace your badassery and recognize that you deserve every accolade.
Responding with Confidence
So, next time someone recognizes your efforts, respond with confidence. Say, “Absolutely, I did that!” and allow yourself to feel proud. Let’s uplift each other in this journey. After all, being a mom is an incredible feat, filled with untiring efforts that often go unrecognized. And when it comes to our careers, we’re breaking barriers and challenging norms every day.
Now is the time to celebrate our victories openly and unapologetically. If you want to dive deeper into related topics, check out this article on home insemination, or for more insights, visit Women’s Health for excellent pregnancy resources.
In conclusion, let’s stop apologizing for our achievements and start celebrating them!