As a parent, I’ve come to realize that everyone needs a little time to recharge each day. From the moment I became a mother, I understood that I wouldn’t be able to entertain my kids endlessly. It’s simply not in my nature. Trying to be “on” for them all the time leads to stress and frustration. This doesn’t mean I don’t adore my children or cherish our special moments; I just find those moments far more meaningful when they can engage in play on their own. Whether I’m frying bacon or deep in a text conversation with a close friend, those brief periods of their independent play are invaluable. Even if their playtime isn’t always harmonious, I stand firm on not being their constant source of entertainment. After all, they don’t need to be overscheduled or micromanaged. They are kids, but also…
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Emphasizing Free Time.
I carve out a bit of free time for myself daily. It revitalizes me and helps me manage our busy schedules. Kids, too, need their own space to daydream and unleash their creativity. Just like adults, they can feel overwhelmed and overstimulated.
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Encouraging Self-Entertainment.
When my first child was born, I dedicated a lot of time to entertaining him. This led him to expect constant engagement from me. While I treasure that time, I noticed he demanded more attention than my other two kids, who were a bit more independent. This shift was a challenge for him once his siblings arrived.
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Living in the Moment.
Kids, and adults, remember the spontaneous, unstructured times more vividly than any planned activity. There’s something magical about unexpected afternoons filled with unplanned fun. If I hovered over them constantly, they wouldn’t learn to grow and adapt as they should. They might miss out on essential lessons, like sneaking candy, crafting elaborate traps, or creating makeup tutorials for their budding YouTube channels.
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Making Toys Matter.
What’s the point of all the toys they receive if they don’t engage with them? Sure, I could join in their play from time to time, but I’ve learned that if my ideas don’t align with theirs, I’m out. For example, I tried to play Barbies with my daughter, but when she refused to let them dance on my back for a “massage,” I quickly lost interest. Allowing them to play independently gives them a chance to explore their own worlds while I can take a breather.
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I’m Not a Circus Performer.
I juggle driving, baking, cooking, cleaning, and making sure they have everything they need for school events and parties. While I’m actively involved in their lives, I also believe in letting them entertain and support each other. After all, that’s one of the main reasons we had more than one child!
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I Have My Own Life.
It’s important that my kids find ways to keep themselves occupied because I have my own responsibilities. I have friends and family who rely on me too. While they are my top priority, they understand that sometimes, I need to focus on other aspects of my life.
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They Have More Fun Without Me.
Let’s face it—I can be a bit bossy! I’m not great at playing pretend games with made-up rules, and losing isn’t my strong suit, especially to my 10-year-old who beats me at everything. They genuinely enjoy themselves more when I’m not in the mix.
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I’m Just Exhausted.
Let’s be real—this is my biggest reason. While I know that fostering their positive brain development should be my primary concern, sometimes it’s just about how tired I am after a long day. It’s much easier to say, “I can’t play Risk tonight because I’m exhausted,” rather than “I’m too tired to engage after dinner.”
In reality, free time is invaluable for both kids and parents. With a thousand other obligations each day, parenting isn’t just about entertaining our children—it’s about balance. So yes, I might be the mom scrolling through my phone or chatting with a friend at the park, all while my kids are lost in their own imaginative worlds. And you know what? I enjoy that guilt-free moment immensely.
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Summary:
Balancing parenting with personal time is essential. By allowing kids to entertain themselves, parents rejuvenate while children learn valuable skills. Encouraging independence fosters creativity and fun, leading to richer family experiences.