When my partner and I purchased our first home, we were thrilled at the prospect of experiencing Halloween in a neighborhood filled with trick-or-treaters. After years of living in a bustling city apartment, we were eager to welcome little ghouls and goblins to our tree-lined street in the suburbs.
On Halloween morning that first year, I made sure to stock up on the “good” candy, brew plenty of apple cider, and adorn our porch with festive decorations. Although we didn’t have children yet, I was excited to join in on the evening’s celebrations.
My partner, with his playful sense of humor, thought it would be hilarious to greet trick-or-treaters wearing an albino ape mask. As the night progressed, he delighted in opening the door with the mask on, shouting “Boo!” to groups of older kids, who found it amusing.
However, his antics took a turn when he spotted another group approaching. He sprinted out of the house, arms waving, and yelled at them. The older kids screamed in laughter, but a tiny 2-year-old dressed as Winnie the Pooh, basket in hand, let out a terrified scream. My partner had overlooked him in his excitement. Understandably, Winnie’s mom had some stern words for my partner about his inappropriate behavior. Since that night, the albino mask has remained hidden away.
Now that I’m a parent myself, I recognize how inconsiderate my partner was with his Halloween humor. After scaring poor Winnie the Pooh, I’ve become extra mindful of how we treat the little ones who knock on our door each Halloween.
1. Understand Halloween Can Be Scary
While you might find the gory decorations on your porch to be the spirit of Halloween, for young children, they can be genuinely frightening. Consider removing any graphic items before trick-or-treating begins so that the youngest visitors feel safe approaching your door.
2. Be Compassionate if Kids Don’t Say ‘Thank You’
Not every child is able to express gratitude verbally for various reasons. Some may be nonverbal and struggle to find the right words, while others may feel shy without their parent beside them. Making comments about a child’s lack of politeness isn’t helpful. Unless it’s your own child being rude, keep your thoughts to yourself.
3. Avoid Teasing Kids About Their Costumes
Kids love Halloween for the chance to unleash their creativity. Whether they’re a superhero or a whimsical character, it’s important to encourage their imagination. If you’re unsure about a costume, engage positively by asking, “What’s your costume?” or “I love that accessory!” It’s vital to foster their confidence, as kids already face enough challenges embracing who they are.
4. Be Mindful of Allergies
Regardless of your personal views on allergies, it’s crucial to recognize that many children have them. You can help by placing a teal-painted pumpkin on your porch to signify safe, non-food treats for kids with allergies. Alternatively, consider offering non-food items to every little monster who visits. Parents of children with allergies will appreciate your thoughtfulness.
5. Skip the Clown Costume
Let’s face it—clowns aren’t loved by most. Given the current societal climate around clowns, you might find yourself facing some upset parents if you choose to dress as one. For everyone’s peace of mind, steer clear of clown costumes.
Halloween can be a confusing and overwhelming experience for kids, and the focus has often shifted to more adult-oriented festivities. While I enjoy costume parties, I try to remember that Halloween is primarily about kids having fun and expressing themselves. When I open my door on Halloween night, I aim to create a positive experience for every child who knocks.
Being the adult who frightened a little Winnie the Pooh is not something I take lightly.
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In summary, Halloween should be a joyous occasion for children. By fostering a kind and welcoming atmosphere, we can ensure that trick-or-treating remains a magical experience for kids and parents alike.