You’ve been anticipating these teenage years for ages—the time when your kids can finally fend for themselves, sleep in, and even drive themselves to soccer practice. (Can I get a yes?!) However, you likely didn’t foresee the transformation of your sweet, polite children into the sometimes exasperating beings they become during this tumultuous period.
So, how do you manage to keep the peace and maintain a loving relationship through these challenging years? It calls for a good dose of compromise, firmness, and consistency, along with some savvy hacks for cohabiting with teens that can ease the experience for everyone.
1. Collect Devices at Night
Establish a rule that all phones and tablets are turned off and stored away in a designated area (like your bedroom) by a mutually agreed-upon time. Stick to this rule like it’s carved in stone.
2. Control Internet Access
Set up a firewall to manage your Wi-Fi access. It’s crucial to prevent unwanted content from filtering through. Remember, you’re the parent, and you control the Wi-Fi.
3. Gas Money Isn’t Automatic
The “gas money fairy” doesn’t exist. If your teen isn’t working, they should find ways to earn money for gas—this helps avoid future arguments about empty tanks.
4. Stop Monitoring Grades
It might be tough, but consider letting go of constant grade checks. Set clear academic expectations and consequences, then let them take responsibility for their education.
5. Earn Car Privileges
Just because your teen can drive doesn’t mean they automatically get your car. Make it a non-negotiable rule that they must earn the privilege to use it.
6. Accept Messy Bedrooms
You probably won’t see a tidy room again until they move out, so learn to live with it. Set basic hygiene rules, then close the door and let it be.
7. Be Consistent
Consistency is key in all areas—discipline, rules, and curfews. Wavering will only lead to trouble, so make “consistency” your parenting mantra.
8. Share Meals Together
Eating together is vital, and it allows you to connect with your teen. Plus, when their mouths are full, you can talk without interruptions!
9. Respect Their Privacy
Establish and uphold boundaries around privacy. Your teens will want space, and a closed door doesn’t mean they love you any less.
10. Avoid Debates
Steer clear of endless debates. When a discussion goes in circles, simply state, “This conversation is over.”
11. Plan One-on-One Outings
Create special “date nights” with your teen. A simple drive can lead to meaningful conversations as they open up about their lives.
12. Use Prepaid Debit Cards
Instead of giving them a family debit card, opt for prepaid ones. They’re less likely to lose them, and you can easily transfer funds.
13. Make Your Home the Hangout Spot
Encourage your teen’s friends to gather at your place. This helps you get to know their social circle and fosters a more open relationship.
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In summary, parenting teens may be challenging, but with these strategies in place, you can foster a more harmonious and respectful household. Embrace the journey with patience and understanding, and remember, you’re not alone in this!