This year, I turned 41, and the best present I received came from my younger sister. She said, “I honestly believe you are more of everything you’ve ever been — more vibrant, more assured, more enjoyable, more passionate — and it’s truly wonderful.” Those simple words shifted my perspective in a big way. Since hitting 40, I’ve noticed a change within myself. One morning, I woke up feeling… different. I felt happier and more self-assured than ever. I felt complete, invigorated, and ready to tackle tasks that were just for me. However, this newfound clarity was tinged with unease, as it’s unsettling to recognize that you are evolving.
A year later, I’ve come to understand that what many refer to as a midlife crisis is a misnomer. We need to stop labeling it that way. The transformation we often experience (which can occur at various ages and stages in life) isn’t a crisis at all; it’s simply us becoming more of who we already are. It’s about gearing up to pursue our passions.
The Journey of Change
Life is a constant journey of change. Eventually, it has to be about you again. You’ve navigated the baby phase, the toddler stage, and perhaps even the teenage years. As your kids embark on their own adventures, they gradually become less reliant on you. You’re no longer changing diapers, tidying up toys, or hosting playdates. While your devotion remains, you now have the chance to focus on yourself a bit more.
It might feel selfish to prioritize yourself, both to others and to yourself, but it’s not. It’s a time to confront insecurities and direct attention to your own needs. Your inner self is calling out, and it’s crucial to pay attention.
Embracing Change
That said, embracing change can be daunting. It’s especially tough when you feel like you’ve been living in a loop for years. Women often lean on routines; it’s a survival strategy in the early days of motherhood. Once you find yourself with more breathing room, more free time, or even just some moments alone in your room because your kids are older, it can feel disconcerting. Guilt or sadness might creep in. But this is the perfect moment to reflect on new goals, revisit old aspirations, and engage in self-improvement.
I personally struggled when my children began to need me less than they used to. Looking back, I realize I was almost scared to confront my own desires. I knew I wanted more out of life than just being a mother and wife. It was a tough realization because, for the first time in many years, I didn’t have a clear plan.
Questioning Our Paths
We are often conditioned to follow a particular path: go to school, grow up, get a job, marry, buy a house, and start a family. But what happens after we achieve all those major milestones? We start questioning our lives, asking ourselves if this is truly what we want for our next chapters. We may recognize that it’s time to release what no longer serves us and let go of relationships that hinder our growth. It’s liberating, and the more we shed the baggage, the more space we have for what ignites our passion. Many of us stick to our comfort zones because it feels safer than venturing into the unknown. That’s why when some of us break free, we are often labeled as experiencing a “crisis.”
In truth, it’s not a crisis; it’s a fresh start, a journey of self-discovery, a rebirth. We are permitted to change, to crave different experiences, to step outside our comfort zones, and to fully embrace who we are becoming.
Chase Your Passions
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In summary, the transition many feel as they enter their 40s isn’t a midlife crisis but rather a journey toward self-realization. It’s an opportunity to prioritize oneself, release what no longer serves, and embrace new beginnings.