I just learned the wonderful news about your pregnancy! Congratulations on joining the wonderful journey of motherhood! The coming months will undoubtedly be filled with joy, challenges, and a mix of emotions as you experience the ups and downs of pregnancy, all while eagerly anticipating the day you hold your little one in your arms.
There are a few things I feel I should share with you now, as I want to be honest about where I’m coming from. First and foremost, I want you to know how much I care about you and your growing baby. I wish for your child to arrive healthy and happy, and for you to embrace every bit of the beautiful experience that pregnancy can offer.
However, as you may know, my recent journey into pregnancy did not end as I had hoped. I understand that my story may bring up fears or discomfort, and I don’t want to be a source of worry for you. Unfortunately, I am a reminder that even with the best care, things can go wrong. I carry the weight of having lost my precious daughter, and I often find myself yearning to share her name with the world, even if it’s a difficult topic for others.
If I mention my own experiences during our conversations, please understand that it comes from a place of love, not to dampen your joy. I know the importance of paying attention to your baby’s movements, and I want to share that knowledge because I wish I’d had someone to remind me of it.
When we talk about your birth plan, I hope you won’t take it personally if my perspective differs. I had my own plans, which had to change drastically when I faced an emergency situation that ultimately didn’t save my daughter. It’s hard for me to grasp the significance of a medication-free birth when my only hope was to bring my baby home alive.
I want you to know that it’s not that I’m unsupportive or bitter about your joy; rather, I’m navigating my own grief. It’s understandable that you have family and friends surrounding you with love and excitement—you deserve every bit of it! But while you bask in that joy, please understand that I’m still healing from my loss.
I’m committed to being a supportive friend during your pregnancy, and if I say or do something that hurts you, please let me know. Just as I’ll respect your journey, I hope you’ll respect my need for healing and self-care. Even though I don’t have living children, I am still a mother, and I’d love for you to share your excitement with me while also allowing me to talk about my daughter. She may not be with us physically, but she is just as real and cherished as your little one will be.
With love,
Your Friend
Additional Resources
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Summary
A heartfelt letter to a pregnant friend from a mother who has experienced loss. The writer expresses love and support while acknowledging her own grief, emphasizing the importance of open communication and mutual understanding during this emotional journey.