My first 18 weeks of pregnancy felt like a dream come true. Sure, I was battling daily nausea and had developed a strong aversion to green veggies, but I was overjoyed. We were busy transforming the nursery, choosing the perfect name, and even compiling an extensive list of stroller safety features. Then, everything changed overnight.
I woke up one morning with intense pain in my lower abdomen. After a series of tests, I learned I had three large fibroids, one of which was the size of a football and pressing on my cervix. The medical jargon was overwhelming, but what it boiled down to was that my pregnancy was at significant risk. The doctor warned me that I’d be lucky to make it to 24 weeks. I was ordered to bed rest for the remainder of my pregnancy, with instructions to keep my hips elevated. Suddenly, not only was I growing a baby, but I was also learning the art of contortionism. I ended up spending five long months in bed. Here’s what I discovered during this challenging time:
1. Trust Your Instincts.
When I first reached out to my doctor about the pain, I was reassured it was probably normal. Despite my gut feeling that something was off, I hesitated to push for earlier appointments. In hindsight, I should have insisted on being seen sooner; it wouldn’t have changed the diagnosis but would have given me a plan more quickly.
2. Find a Trustworthy Doctor.
Being classified as high-risk granted me priority, but the large practice I was seeing shuffled me between practitioners, leading to conflicting advice. I finally insisted on sticking with one doctor, someone known for handling complicated C-sections and with a good sense of humor. It was a decision I never regretted.
3. You’re Not Alone.
While being confined to my couch felt isolating, I discovered through online forums that many women were experiencing similar challenges. Even though we couldn’t meet for coffee, the shared experience of fear and boredom made me feel less isolated. Just a tip—avoid Googling symptoms; it rarely ends well.
4. Build a Support System.
This was the perfect time to let go of household duties, but I was initially hesitant to ask for help. I quickly learned that people were eager to assist a pregnant woman! I reached out to neighbors, my mom, and even local volunteers for support. I also managed to convince my best friend to bring over take-out and binge-watch shows with me—a highlight of my week!
5. Create a Comfortable Space.
I went all out in preparing my space. I invested in nice sheets, kept a cooler filled with snacks nearby, and stocked up on gossip magazines and Netflix. With everything within reach, it felt a little like I was hosting a party, even if it was just me and my dog. In fact, I even bought a rhinestone tiara for fun!
6. Keep the Romance Alive.
With the focus on staying off my feet, intimacy was the last thing on my mind. The stress of managing a new business and home renovations took a toll on my relationship with my husband. To reconnect, I planned low-key nights together, even if he often fell asleep next to me from exhaustion. At least we made the effort.
7. Abandon the Birth Plan.
In a high-risk pregnancy, the concept of a birth plan becomes obsolete. One moment I was dreaming of a serene water birth, and the next, I was rushing to schedule a C-section. The best decision I made was hiring a doula, who provided invaluable support and guidance through the unpredictable journey.
8. Practice Self-Forgiveness.
I battled feelings of guilt over the complications, questioning my ability to be a good mother. How could I care for a newborn if I couldn’t protect him in utero? It was a dark mindset, but I had to remind myself repeatedly that I was doing my best and that my love and decisions would guide me as a mother.
Five months after those initial pains, my baby boy arrived healthy, right on his due date. The journey was fraught with challenges, but we emerged stronger together. And as an unexpected bonus, the time spent with my legs elevated somehow rekindled the romance in a unique way.
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Summary
My experience with a high-risk pregnancy taught me invaluable lessons about trusting my instincts, the importance of a supportive medical team, and the need for community and self-care. Ultimately, the journey led to a healthy baby and personal growth.