We all think we have parenting figured out—until we actually become parents. For me, I entered the world of parenting with a clear idea of what I would avoid. While some of my initial rules have remained, like limiting screen time, avoiding physical punishment, and focusing on positive reinforcement, I’ve found myself bending on several of the promises I made to myself. Here are ten habits I swore I would never adopt, yet somehow found myself in:
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Co-sleeping
I was certain my kids would sleep soundly in their cribs, but once they hit the age of two, our bed became the midnight destination. At 3:00 a.m., you do what you must: squish your little one between you and your partner like a big piece of Play-Doh, and hope for more sleep. -
Making Separate Meals
I try to cook meals everyone can enjoy, but sometimes, when I stray from the usual rotation of burgers and pasta, my kids protest louder than a protestor at a rally. So, I often end up whipping up an alternative just to keep the peace. -
Allowing TV Time
I recall a version of myself—much younger and more idealistic—who vowed her kids would never watch TV. Fast forward a few years, and that same person found immense value in using the television as a babysitter during her second pregnancy. -
Negotiating With Kids
Growing up, my parents’ word was final. But now? Some days, I find myself negotiating for just one more episode of their favorite show or convincing them to eat a few extra peas. It’s not perfect, but it’s real. -
Trying to Do Everything
Remember when you thought traveling with a baby would be a breeze? Well, after one exhausting trip filled with jet lag and colicky cries, I learned that some plans just don’t work out as expected. -
Being Flexible on Bedtime
Sometimes, being lenient on bedtime feels more like laziness than love. Those “just a few more minutes” can easily turn into an hour of chaos, and suddenly, it’s 9:00 p.m., and we’re all still awake. -
Breakfast Treats
I always aimed for healthy breakfasts, but some days, convenience wins. Pop Tarts may not be the pinnacle of nutrition, but when the morning is chaotic, they’re a quick solution that everyone will eat. -
Desiring Control
Before I had kids, I read all the parenting books and made spreadsheets on how to encourage my child’s independence. Yet, the minute my little one discovered the word “no,” all that flew out the window. -
Breaking the Rules
Jumping on the bed is a rite of passage for kids. While it can lead to some bumps and bruises, I enjoy watching them embrace their childhood and have fun, if only from a safe distance. -
Accepting a Messy Home
I always imagined I’d maintain a tidy house, but reality hit hard. I realized that as long as we’re happy and healthy, a bit of mess is a small price to pay for family life. Plus, I’ve learned that a clean toilet is essential—especially with curious little ones around.
In the end, parenting is a learning experience where flexibility is key. Some of these habits may not seem ideal, but they often bring moments of joy and laughter. After all, your little ones won’t always want to snuggle at 3:00 a.m., and hopefully, they’ll outgrow the phase of playing in the toilet!
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Summary:
Parenting is filled with unexpected twists, and many of the rules we set for ourselves can easily be bent. From co-sleeping and making separate meals to allowing TV time and accepting a messy house, it’s clear that flexibility is essential in this journey. Ultimately, finding a balance that works for you and your family is what matters most.