My 5-year-old son, with his long, beautiful hair and charming face, has often been mistaken for a girl. Once, while riding the bus to school, a woman complimented me, saying, “Your daughter has gorgeous hair.” I smiled and replied, “Thank you. He sure does.” In an instant, her smile faded, and she shifted uncomfortably in her seat.
On another occasion, I saw a boy pointing at my son, teasing, “You’re a girl!” A sharp look from me, paired with a firm “Hey!” sent him running off. My son has faced countless comments like “boys shouldn’t have long hair” or “boys don’t do this or that.”
As a woman, I’ve seen how society imposes expectations on gender from the get-go. Even before children are born, there are unspoken rules—pink for girls, blue for boys; long hair and bows for girls, short hair for boys. Girls are often nudged toward nurturing roles, while boys are told to be tough and stoic. I’ve spent my life resisting these limitations, refusing to be defined by traditional roles.
Having boys has opened my eyes to the pressures they endure regarding gender norms. My son enjoys wearing dresses and painting his nails, which led to meaningful conversations with his daycare provider about making sure he feels accepted, even if others might tease him. My husband, a wonderful example of a supportive father, has painted his nails to show our son that it’s okay to express himself freely. Recently, while shopping, my son chose a quirky orange-and-white-striped shirt with eight pockets—an unusual choice that I found quite unattractive. However, his excitement over it was contagious, and I cherish that about him.
There are signs that our culture is gradually prioritizing equality, diversity, and the freedom to choose over outdated gender stereotypes. For example, the emerging company Boy Story is launching a line of dolls aimed at boys, challenging the status quo. This is a step toward progress as we observe more toy and clothing options that defy traditional gender categories.
When discussing gender, I’ve never understood why society feels the need to put people into neat boxes. My husband embodies the idea that men can be nurturing and emotionally intelligent caretakers. While I wouldn’t choose to be a stay-at-home parent, I respect those who do, and I resist any notion that it’s a woman’s role.
Why can’t we simply be ourselves? Isn’t that the path to true happiness and confidence? If my son dreams of being a fashion designer or pursuing any “feminine” interest, that’s precisely what he should follow. Ultimately, I can’t control societal pressures, but I will do my best to instill in him the confidence to embrace his authentic self. I believe that who he truly is will be extraordinary.
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In summary, supporting our children as they express themselves without the constraints of gender norms is vital for their growth and happiness. By fostering an environment of acceptance and understanding, we can help them become confident individuals who embrace their true selves.