As parents, my partner and I have always cherished the word “routine.” It has guided us through bedtimes, sleep training, meal times, and nearly every other aspect of raising our children. While some friends suggested we could ease up on our strict sleep schedule, we found comfort in it; it worked well for both the kids and us.
We showered our little ones with hugs and kisses, but when bedtime rolled around, we shifted into serious mode: minimal rocking, some gentle bouncing, and then down they went into their cribs—where they’d drift off to sleep like pros. There’s no denying that our kids have always been fantastic sleepers, and I credit that success to our steadfast sleep routine. No one can change my mind; it’s been a true blessing for our sanity. Yet, lately, as I watch them grow and change, I feel an overwhelming urge to toss the routine aside and indulge in all the snuggles I can get.
Every day, it strikes me just how fast they’re growing up. Mia now chats with me like a mini CEO, presenting options I can’t resist: “Mom, we can either hit the ice cream shop or go for a swim. What’s your pick?” Let’s just say, she knows how to negotiate. Meanwhile, Lucas explains his thoughts with a serious demeanor, punctuating his words with enthusiastic hand gestures that make it clear he wants me to understand.
With Mia comfortably sprawled across me, she’s nearly my height. Lucas confidently opens the fridge for his own snack, and I wouldn’t be surprised if he could drive a car already! When did they become so grown?
I often find myself envisioning a future where they choose sleepovers with friends over cuddles in my bed. Before I know it, they’ll be adults with their own places, sleeping far from me. Those thoughts make it feel like time is slipping through my fingers—like any moment they could stop asking for me to lie next to them. In the hustle of everyday life, I sometimes forget how quickly they transition from one stage to the next.
Recently, we spent a month at the beach with my parents. My partner took some time off and joined us for a few longer weekends, but mostly it was just me and the kids, with plenty of space in my bed. Feeling more confident in my parenting and reassured that their sleep habits are solid, I’ve started prioritizing the moments of snuggling over strict sleep schedules.
There’s a time for everything, including sleep routines. But there’s also a moment to set those routines aside and embrace the chaos. Every parent faces choices, and recognizing when to stick to a plan and when to embrace spontaneity is part of the journey.
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In summary, while routines are vital in parenting, sometimes it’s worth it to prioritize those sweet moments of connection. After all, they grow up so fast!