By: Creative Contributor
Updated: April 12, 2023
Originally Published: April 12, 2023
This morning began with an unexpected phone call from a local radio station, eager to hear my thoughts on a recent comment made by political analyst Jenna Fields. Jenna suggested that Claire Harper, wife of presidential contender Jake Harper, shouldn’t offer advice on women’s issues and the economy since she has “never held a job outside the home.”
My initial reaction was to chuckle at the notion of being considered a political expert. Me? Really? But upon reflection, I realized this discussion transcends politics—it’s fundamentally about motherhood. It’s often said that politics and religion are the two taboo subjects for dinner conversations due to their divisive nature; we might as well add motherhood to that list.
Jenna’s comments have sparked considerable outrage, and as a proud member of the Motherhood Society, I can understand why. While I may not agree that Claire’s lack of traditional work experience disqualifies her from commenting on economic matters, I strongly oppose the insinuation that being a stay-at-home mom equates to not working. Motherhood has proven to be the most challenging role I’ve ever taken on, and I know countless others feel the same.
Claire raised five children—yet because she wasn’t compensated for her efforts, critics suggest she hasn’t truly worked. With that many kids, I can only imagine the sheer volume of tasks she managed daily: from cleaning up after them to playing nurse, therapist, clown, baker, and chauffeur—her list of responsibilities is endless. I bet she has dealt with more messes at home than she would have ever encountered in the workplace. And she did all of this without a paycheck, simply because it’s part of the job.
I don’t personally know Claire Harper, nor do I have insight into Jenna Fields’ parenting journey. What I do know is that fostering competition between working moms and stay-at-home mothers serves no one. It’s a conversation that extends far beyond this recent debate. What if we chose to uplift each other instead? Every mother faces the tough decision of whether or not to return to work. Regardless of employment status, we all share the same fundamental role. The last thing we need is another mom scrutinizing our choices.
Whether you choose to work or stay home, breastfeed or bottle-feed, circumcise or not, co-sleep or have separate beds—what matters is making the best decisions for your family. Let’s focus on supporting one another instead of judging.
After all, we’ve all been there—dealing with explosive diaper situations at some point. Shouldn’t that shared experience unite us rather than divide us? If you’re interested in exploring more about this topic, check out our blog post here for additional insights. And if you’re looking for reliable resources on at-home insemination options, consider visiting Make a Mom for quality kits. For further information on pregnancy and home insemination, Progyny provides excellent guidance.
In summary, let’s remember that our journeys as mothers are unique, and rather than fostering competition, we should embrace solidarity in our choices and experiences.
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