Navigating the challenges of motherhood and marriage is a lot easier when you have a few fierce, amazing friends by your side. I affectionately refer to them as my soul sisters because they truly understand and accept me without any judgment. These women are my heart, my soul, and my sanity. They are anything but ordinary; I need strong, no-nonsense individuals on my team because, let’s be honest, life can be incredibly tough.
Many of us formed our closest friendships long before entering motherhood, and those friends have witnessed our darkest moments. They can genuinely appreciate how far we’ve come. I, for one, am still surprised that I didn’t drown myself in wine and have somehow morphed into a responsible adult trying to manage a household (emphasis on “trying”). I’m sure you’ve also forged some beautiful friendships since becoming a mom.
Each one of these women brings something unique to my life, but they all inspire me and help keep me centered. They are my constants, my sounding boards when I feel like I’m losing my mind (which happens often). They guide me when I’m feeling lost and help me become a better person and mother.
While our husbands are wonderful, let’s face it: they often don’t grasp the whirlwind of thoughts swirling in our heads. It’s not their fault; they simply lack the innate understanding we do. That’s where our soul sisters come in. They come from diverse backgrounds but share a common trait: these friendships are solid and enduring because these remarkable women are genuinely invested in our well-being and won’t back down when times are tough.
They are always ready to support you. With just a quick text, they show up at your door (or hop on a video call if they live far away), ready to tackle any crisis or pop open a bottle of wine. They don’t see happy hour as a guideline; they know when it’s time to raise a glass and help you dissect your problems into manageable pieces. They’ll even help you figure out the best course of action for whatever mess you’re dealing with. Soul sisters are always ready to have your back.
They hold you accountable. While they may not immediately voice their opinions, they ask the tough questions that help you step back and take a reality check. They might say things like, “Are you sure that’s how it happened?” or “Could you have stirred the pot a bit?” Once they help you break down those walls and see things more clearly, they collaborate with you to find solutions. Soul sisters want the best for you, even when their honest feedback stings a bit.
They become like aunts to your children, loving them almost as much as their own. They volunteer to babysit, shower your kids with gifts, and spend countless hours trying to figure out what might be bothering your child. They’ll scour the internet with you and even reach out to experts when needed. They are invaluable resources, and even if they don’t have all the answers, they’ll find someone who does and follow up with you to ensure everything is okay. Your kids’ challenges are their challenges, and they never shy away from helping.
They also advocate for your marriage. Instead of joining in when you vent about your spouse, they remind you of the love and good times you’ve shared. Soul sisters know how to balance supporting you through tough times while encouraging you to fight for your marriage. If you’re at fault, they’ll tell you to own up and make amends. You might feel frustrated when they call you out, but deep down, you know they care about both you and your partner.
They understand when you need space. Soul sisters have a knack for sensing when you’re struggling and adjust their approach accordingly. They know when to cheer you up and when to simply sit quietly while you process your emotions. Sometimes, they don’t even need to say anything. I recall a particularly tough time during my postpartum period when I avoided my best friend’s calls. When we finally connected, she simply said, “I just wanted to hear your voice.” No interrogation, just love. It was exactly what I needed.
No matter where you are, you always manage to have fun together. Whether you’re lounging at a beach, staying in a fancy hotel, or stuck at home with a power outage, you and your soul sisters always find joy. You laugh at the silliest things, share dreams, and sometimes even enjoy comfortable silence. They see you for who you truly are, flaws and all, and love you anyway.
I truly hope all women have a few soul sisters who complete their lives. I know I wouldn’t be who I am today without the unwavering love and support from these friends during my toughest moments. Finding someone to walk alongside you, even through the muck, is a rare gift. Cherish these friendships, and don’t hesitate to reach out. Pour a glass of wine, connect with your soul sisters, and let them know just how much they mean to you.
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