Good news to all mothers of daughters! It turns out that your persistent reminders and advice might actually work in your favor. Research from the University of Essex has shown that daughters with more involved moms—often perceived as “nagging”—tend to achieve greater success in life. These daughters are more likely to attend college, secure better-paying jobs, and steer clear of teenage pregnancies compared to their peers with more laid-back mothers.
Led by researcher Jenna Marks, the study monitored the lives of over 15,000 girls aged 13 to 14 from 2004 to 2010. The findings indicated that high parental expectations significantly influenced key life choices. Interestingly, it was the expectations of the primary parent—most often the mother—that had the strongest impact, earning us the title of “nagging” champions! Hooray for us!
As a daughter of a mom who held high expectations, I can personally vouch for this. I am certain that my fear of disappointing my mom kept me motivated throughout high school. I would have rather faced any consequence than give her the satisfaction of saying, “I told you so.” And look at me now—yes, I graduated!
Even when teenagers seem indifferent to our advice, the study suggests that our words resonate more than they let on. Marks noted, “Many of us opted for choices that we felt were best for us, even if they contradicted our parents’ wishes. Yet, despite our attempts to disregard their recommendations, their influence likely shaped our decisions.” It turns out, we’re deeply embedded in their thoughts—so much so that we might as well pay rent!
But what about those “cool moms” who take a more relaxed approach? Does this mean their daughters are more prone to risky behaviors? Not necessarily. The study revealed that high expectations from parents can reduce a teen’s likelihood of becoming pregnant by about 4% when compared to those with middling aspirations. It might not be a perfect solution, but it’s a step in the right direction!
With this newfound insight, I’ll continue to offer my daughter valuable advice, all while feeling more empowered. Expect plenty of reminders like, “Good morning! Brush your teeth and make smart choices!” And every time she retorts with, “I know, Mom,” I’ll take comfort in knowing I’ve carved out more space in her mind.
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In summary, the study emphasizes that a mother’s high expectations can significantly benefit her daughter’s future, leading to better educational and life outcomes. So, embrace your inner “nag,” and know that your guidance could be the key to your daughter’s success.