All those years ago, when we were bright-eyed and full of dreams as newlyweds, there were countless aspects of marriage, parenting, and the unique blend of both that I just didn’t grasp. I didn’t foresee that date nights would involve late-night games of Stratego and cozy movie sessions on Sundays. I had no inkling that we would develop our own special language filled with sighs, chuckles, and knowing glances, allowing us to communicate without uttering a single word. And I certainly didn’t anticipate how deeply I could miss you, even with you right here beside me every day.
But I do. I miss you.
Although we share a home, a bed, and a life together, there are stretches of time—days, weeks, even months—when life’s demands sweep us up. Either you’re busy working late, or I am, or we’re both caught in the whirlwind of responsibilities. Our little ones, who call us Mom and Dad, constantly vie for our attention. Work emails, deadlines, and family obligations pull us in every direction. By the end of the day, we often find ourselves too exhausted to do anything but fall asleep on the couch while catching a few minutes of late-night TV.
We know that our relationship is the cornerstone of our family, so we strive to carve out quality time for each other. We schedule date nights and stay up late binge-watching shows. We treat ourselves to the occasional getaway—whether it’s a night away or a blissfully long weekend. Throughout the day, we send quick texts, checking in with each other and sharing a laugh with silly memes to brighten our moods. We’ve learned to value not just the hours, but even the minutes we have together.
And yet, there are still moments when I miss you.
I miss those long conversations about nothing and everything. I miss our leisurely Sunday mornings spent in bed. I miss being able to start and finish a thought without interruptions from our little ones excitedly asking, “Guess what, Dad?” or “Mom, can I have…” I miss our train rides home from work together, cozying up with books, and enjoying brunch outings as a duo.
There are days when I long for your presence—seeing you, touching you, sharing the same space. I miss knowing all the little details of your day, like what you had for lunch and how long your commute was. I miss hearing your laughter.
You pour countless hours into the important work that supports our family. You manage client emails, lead calls, draft legal documents, and advocate in court—all while balancing the demands of family life. You rush to catch the train just to catch a glimpse of our son’s baseball game, engage our younger child in play, and remind the kids about their bedtime routines, often squeezing in more work after they’ve settled down.
I do my part too, juggling school drop-offs, swim practices, and doctor appointments while fitting in work where I can. I help with homework, check backpacks, and remind the kids to brush their teeth—all before I, too, finish my work after they’re asleep.
We’re both dedicated to our family, each in our own way.
Sometimes it feels as though unseen forces are conspiring to keep us apart. Just when life calms down for you, it ramps up for me. One weekend I’m away, then you’re off on a trip, and family visits tend to disrupt our plans. Every time we think we’re on the same page, some last-minute emergency or social obligation turns everything upside down.
This isn’t unique to us; it’s simply part of being adults, parents, and partners. We’re constantly surrounded by demands for our time and attention, pulled in countless directions and asked to be everything for everyone. And while we want to prioritize each other, the needs of our children, who call us Mom and Dad, often take precedence.
But perhaps this sense of longing isn’t entirely negative. Maybe missing each other is a reminder of what brought us together in the first place. It rekindles the passion and romance of our early days. It highlights how much I truly need you and reinforces the love and care you have for our family. It reminds me that you are still my one and only.
So until our next date night, stolen kiss, movie marathon, or long weekend getaway—until our next cozy snuggle on the couch—I will continue to miss you because my love for you has only grown deeper since we were those starry-eyed newlyweds.
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Summary
This heartfelt letter reflects on the complexities of marriage and parenting, emphasizing the importance of connection and the bittersweet experience of missing your partner amidst life’s chaos. It acknowledges the efforts both partners put into their family while recognizing the need for intimacy and togetherness.