In today’s world, where smartphones and social media platforms like Instagram and Facebook dominate our lives, it seems we’re snapping more photos than ever before. Yet, when we look back at the images we choose to keep—those we intend to print or share with our children—how many include us? The reality is that many moms end up behind the camera, missing from the memories that will be cherished for years to come.
A thoughtful post by a Texas-based motivational speaker, Lily Carter, highlights this issue. She urges fathers to take more pictures of their wives, emphasizing the importance for their children to have visual memories of mom, especially when she’s no longer around. “Dear dads,” she writes, “snap that photo… It doesn’t matter how she feels about her appearance, or if she says no. Just take the photo.”
We all have those days when we feel put together—dressed nicely, hair done—but often, unless we specifically ask, our partners may not think to capture those moments. “When she’s gone, the photos left behind won’t show the woman who always stood behind the camera. Take that shot. Messy hair or a worn-out t-shirt won’t matter to your children in the long run,” Lily points out.
While her message is directed at fathers, it resonates with everyone in the family. There’s usually one person who plays the role of the family historian, capturing special occasions and milestones, which unfortunately means they’re rarely in the frame themselves. Children will want to see the faces of their parents alongside their own as they look back on memories.
After losing her own father, Lily realized she had a limited number of pictures with him because he was always the one taking them. Ask anyone who has experienced the loss of a parent: would they prefer a collection of solo holiday photos or one more image with the beloved parent? The answer is clear. One day, we will all be gone, and those we leave behind will crave tangible memories of us. We deserve to be in those photos, regardless of how we look at the moment.
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In summary, let’s make a conscious effort to capture those moments together, ensuring that our children have lasting memories of not just themselves, but also of us, their parents.