My 4-year-old, Mia, is convinced she knows everything there is to know about the world, including the very important fact that food should never touch on a plate. Her opinions are vast and varied, covering everything from the correct way to say “purple” (she insists it’s “purtle”) to dictating when the sun should set. And let me tell you, my choice of clothing is a frequent target of her critique.
“Why don’t you wear your fancy black dress?!” she demands as we prepare for a neighborhood barbecue.
“Well, sweetheart, it’s sweltering outside, and that black dress is made of wool. I’m sorry if I’m not fancy enough for you, Your Highness,” I reply, possibly with a dramatic bow for effect.
Like all kids her age, Mia acts like she’s been around forever and knows more than anyone. With her strong-willed nature, I often find myself caught in the web of absurd arguments daily. Over time, I’ve developed some strategies to emerge victorious in these seemingly unwinnable debates. Here’s how you can also triumph over a headstrong 4-year-old:
“Hey, Mia! I know you want to wear whatever you choose, but that outfit isn’t going to cut it.”
“Yes, I see you feel like a princess, and I appreciate your creativity. However, it’s summer, and you’re wearing leg warmers and snow boots.”
“They do cover your legs, that’s true. But it’s like a thousand degrees outside.”
“Yes, just like lava! I remember that time we played ‘don’t touch the hot lava’ with all the pillows on the floor.”
“Yes, it was super fun, and we will definitely do it again. Just not right now, because we’ll be late for the party if we get sidetracked.”
“The main issue isn’t just the leg warmers and boots; it’s that your dress has turned into a shirt since you’ve grown taller.”
“I know it covers your bottom, but that doesn’t meet the definition of a dress.”
“No, it’s not a dress. Seriously, it’s not!”
“Okay, if you insist on wearing that shirt, you’ll need to put on some shorts, at least. And those leg warmers? They’ve got to go.”
“I see. You think you look like a superhero princess? Well, you might end up a superhero princess of fire with those legs burning the second you step outside.” (Laughs briefly, then stops.)
“I’m sorry for laughing. I promise I won’t do it again.”
“Really, I won’t. Never ever.”
“Alright, how about you find some shorts and different shoes?”
“Yes, shoes are always necessary. Well, except at the beach, but we’re not going to the beach today—we’re going to a party.”
“Because the beach is quite far away. Yes, we’ll go sometime, maybe next Christmas. Now, find your shorts and shoes, please!”
I might have raised my voice a little, but she was truly driving me crazy. “Well, I guess it’s mutual,” she shot back.
I think she ended up wearing the shorts that day, but the details are a bit hazy. It’s likely we both got too tired to continue, and we might have skipped the whole event. So, the idea of “winning” an argument with a 4-year-old is a bit of a stretch. Perhaps it’s best if we both just wear what we want as long as we’re covered!
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Summary
Navigating arguments with opinionated 4-year-olds can be a challenge, but with patience and humor, you can find common ground. It’s often best to let them express themselves while guiding them gently toward practical choices.