As a stay-at-home mom, I was initially hesitant to enroll my children in preschool. Our family was on a tight budget, and I struggled to justify the expense. Plus, I genuinely enjoyed having my kids with me all day. We kept busy with endless activities and adventures, and I found plenty of ways to arrange playdates without needing a formal setting.
One challenge I faced was potty training, a requirement for most preschools. My sons didn’t master it until after they turned three, and let me tell you, potty training is one of the most daunting aspects of parenting!
However, by the time my boys reached three and a half, I recognized that they needed some structure and diversity. They were both excited about the idea of school, often exclaiming, “I want to go to school!” daily. So, I found some affordable preschool programs for them to attend a few hours a week.
But excitement doesn’t always translate into smooth transitions. You can be overjoyed about signing your child up for preschool, drawn in by the colorful classrooms and friendly teachers, only to feel your stomach drop when that first drop-off day arrives. Suddenly, that cozy little classroom feels enormous and intimidating.
My oldest adapted easily to preschool, chatting with teachers and making friends right away. My younger son, however, had a more difficult time. He needed me to stay close for a while before he felt comfortable enough to separate. He would often resist leaving the house, insisting, “We’ll go next time.” If I pushed him, tears would flow as he declared, “I hate school! Don’t make me go!” He would become a limp noodle until it was far too late to leave.
I tried to be patient and understanding. I didn’t criticize his feelings. However, once I made the decision to enroll him, I was determined to encourage him to at least give it a shot. Yes, I may have resorted to a few bribes involving lollipops. Eventually, after a few weeks, his reluctance diminished, and he no longer needed me to stay right by his side.
While this transition may not be one of the hardest challenges parents face, it still raises doubts. You start questioning whether you made the right choice and worry if something might be wrong with your child—or even with yourself.
I found myself contemplating whether I should withdraw him from preschool and wait until next year. But I also thought about how beneficial it could be for both of us to learn to let go. I questioned if I was unfairly comparing him to his brother, who had adapted more easily.
Parenthood is undoubtedly challenging. You can’t always know if you’re making the best decision for your child. Sometimes preschool simply isn’t the right fit—perhaps your child is too young, or the program doesn’t align with their needs. Trust your instincts; you know your child best, and outside opinions shouldn’t sway your choices.
However, if you feel confident that your child is ready for preschool and it aligns with your goals, it’s worth gently encouraging them to persist. Show up consistently, even if it means arriving late for a while, and trust that preschool teachers are trained to help children with their emotions. Often, kids adjust better when parents aren’t hovering nearby.
Most likely, things will turn out just fine. In a few weeks or even months, your child might be begging to go to school, and you may find yourself relishing those quiet hours you didn’t realize you needed. You’ll discover the joy of fitting in a jog, a shower, or some much-needed work during those precious preschool hours.
When you finally reunite with your little one at the end of the day, you’ll both have stories to share. There may be more tears, but they’ll be your tears of pride as you witness your child’s growth and resilience. You might even find yourself wishing they would just stop growing up—at least for a little while.
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Summary
Preschool can be an emotional transition for both parents and children. While some kids adapt quickly, others may struggle with separation. It’s important to trust your instincts and gently encourage your child through the process. Ultimately, with patience and support, they may end up loving school and thriving in their new environment.