Updated: May 13, 2018
Originally Published: Aug. 24, 2016
Just a year ago, my life revolved around my first child. Being a new mom was the most incredible experience, but I quickly realized that no amount of preparation truly equips you for motherhood. I often found myself overwhelmed, questioning how to soothe a crying baby or juggle basic self-care amidst the chaos of spit-up and diapers.
As I approached the arrival of my second child, I was filled with anxiety. Would I be able to love another little one as much as I loved my daughter? The thought of diving back into the “newborn abyss” was daunting. How would I manage a toddler and a newborn simultaneously? Though I felt a bit more confident this time around, I soon discovered that parenthood always keeps you on your toes. Here are 22 lessons I’ve gathered from welcoming my second baby:
- You’re stronger than you realize.
Carrying a car seat while wrangling a toddler will make you feel unstoppable. - What worked for your first may not work for your second.
Even with more experience, you might find yourself second-guessing your instincts as every baby is unique. - A crying baby isn’t the end of the world.
Sometimes, it’s okay to let the baby cry while you manage a mischievous toddler. - The color of your baby’s washcloths doesn’t matter.
Just grab whatever is available—colors are irrelevant! - Exhaustion reaches new heights.
Your body is capable of amazing things, even on little sleep. - When the baby finally sleeps, the toddler will wake up.
Every single time. Sleep becomes a coveted commodity. - Nap schedules are crucial.
Aiming for simultaneous naps can feel like a small victory. - Your first child will adapt.
You might worry about giving them less attention, but they will learn to adjust to the new family dynamic. - Newborns are tougher than you think.
Toddlers have no concept of “gentle,” and surprisingly, babies can handle a lot. - Invest in a quality baby carrier.
You’ll soon wonder how people manage without wearing their little ones. - Your toddler will surprise you.
You may feel like you’re raising a wild animal at times! - Things get better each day.
You and your kids will improve, but punctuality may be a thing of the past. - The bond between your children is priceless.
The laughter and smiles they share make it all worthwhile. - Baby toys aren’t essential.
You don’t need to overwhelm your newborn with new toys. - You can’t do everything alone.
It’s important to ask for and accept help. - Having one child feels like a breeze.
No matter how challenging your second baby is, you’ll laugh at your past worries. - Double strollers are lifesavers.
On tough days, a stroll with both kids can be therapeutic. - Meal times can be chaotic.
Forget about normalcy—embrace the mess! - You might find yourself raising your voice.
It’s okay to lose your cool sometimes. - Time flies with your second child.
Don’t stress if you miss those cute milestone photos. - Self-care is even more important now.
With less time, prioritizing your well-being is vital for your sanity. - Your heart can accommodate two children.
This first year has been a whirlwind, filled with emotions beyond what I ever imagined.
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In summary, welcoming your second baby can be a life-changing experience filled with challenges and joys. Embrace the chaos, lean on your support system, and cherish the moments that make it all worthwhile.