Many of us have experienced that unexpected desire to have another baby, even when we know deep down that we should probably focus on the little whirlwinds already turning our homes upside down. I’ve witnessed some wild transformations in people trying to suppress that urge to reproduce. You know that eccentric cat lady? She most likely began as someone who just wanted one more kitten. And every individual featured on Hoarders probably started with the innocent intention of keeping just one more telephone book.
So, when you find yourself feeling done with the baby-making phase, only to be hit by an overwhelming urge to add to the chaos, here are some essential do’s and don’ts to consider:
Do find a new fitness routine.
Engaging in exercise can help channel all that pent-up baby energy. Plus, every time you catch a glimpse of yourself in the gym mirror, it’ll serve as a reminder of the toll your previous kids took on your body.
Don’t rush into pet ownership.
You know who you are. While puppies are undeniably adorable, remember that dogs don’t even enjoy hugs. Avoid the temptation of impulse pet shopping and save your lawn from becoming a permanent mess.
Do embrace a little food poisoning.
It’s a convenient way to rekindle those nostalgic feelings of morning sickness and the general discomfort of pregnancy.
Don’t hold newborns.
Seriously, step away from the babies! They may seem like sweet, cuddly bundles, but don’t be fooled—those adorable little ones will eventually transform into toddlers.
Do wake yourself up every hour.
To really capture the essence of sleepless nights, set your alarm and then pinch yourself for 30 minutes.
Don’t look at your kids’ baby photos with rose-colored glasses.
They may appear precious, and your ovaries may start to tingle, but remember that sweet little face will eventually morph into a tiny tornado who shoves marbles up their nose.
Do revisit your own baby photos.
Especially that one where you still looked like you were three days postpartum, wearing a diaper while struggling with the aftermath of childbirth.
Don’t imagine your youngest as the perfect older sibling.
They will likely surprise you by pinching the new baby behind your back and begging you to return them to the hospital.
Do invite heavily pregnant friends over.
They’re bound to help you regain your senses.
Don’t convince yourself you feel “incomplete.”
You are complete. Adding another child may only increase the odds of one of them turning out like Uncle Larry.
Do take a hard look at your finances.
Then, visualize subtracting $304,480—what it costs to raise that child until they turn eighteen. Yikes!
Don’t dwell on the ‘what-ifs.’
Instead, cherish the little ones you already have and recognize how fortunate you are.
Do outline your life goals.
Consider how another baby might interfere with what you really want to achieve. If it wouldn’t, great—make a plan!
Don’t sugarcoat the reality of another life change.
Sure, some might say, “Another kid is just another body in the bathtub!” But be real with yourself—remember that time you woke up with a mess in your hair? Yeah, that was fun.
So, if you’re really set on adding to your family, go ahead. But if your rational side knows another child isn’t what you truly want, keep this list handy. And maybe invest in some vise grips for good measure!
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In summary, if you’re experiencing baby fever but know in your heart you’re done having kids, take a moment to reflect on the realities. Embrace your current family and make sure you’re making decisions that align with your true desires.