In a gathering of brilliant minds (a book club filled with incredibly smart women—plus me), I found myself breaking my usual habit of pretending everything was fine when someone inquired about my beloved teenage daughter. A tad too eagerly, I confessed my frustrations, expressing how much I felt like stabbing the little brat with a fork.
“She’s such a handful! Constantly! Self-centered, moody creature! Always muttering and giving ME the stink eye! The eye rolls, the stomping feet, the door slamming—it got so bad we took the door off the hinges! Honestly, I could stab her. That little brat, I could really stab her with a fork. I can’t take it anymore!”
Most of the group wasn’t shocked by my outburst, as I have a reputation for being candid.
One friend suddenly set her wine glass down, cleared her throat, and with her arms crossed, shot me a glare. “Kate, it makes me uncomfortable to hear you speak so violently about your daughter. I know her, and she’s actually a gem. It disturbs me how you’re expressing this. She’s a young girl, and you owe her at least respect.”
Heat rushed to my face, and I felt embarrassed, almost overwhelmed. But before I could gather my thoughts to respond—or possibly apologize—another voice chimed in.
“With all due respect, Emily, you need to pipe down.”
The room fell silent. This wasn’t the type to throw around curse words; she was a calm, gentle mom I truly respect and have little in common with.
“You have two BOYS. Boys! You can’t possibly understand what it’s like to raise a teenage girl—Kate’s got three of them! So, with all due respect: SHUT. UP. You have no idea what these girls can turn into out of nowhere. Not a clue.”
My defender (a mom with a 15-year-old daughter) turned to me, “I totally get it: I say fork her.”
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