When my first child, Leo, was a baby, he was pretty much average in size, with his height and weight bouncing between the 25th and 50th percentiles. He was lean all over, except for those adorable, chunky thighs that I still wish I could pinch. But as he became more active, those baby rolls melted away, leaving him looking quite small. By the time we visited the pediatrician for his one-year check-up, he had essentially dropped off the growth chart, landing below the 5th percentile. The pediatrician, who was very kind, reassured us that this is common as children often slim down during toddlerhood. However, she wanted to know everything he ate, bombarded us with developmental questions, and promised to monitor his growth in the coming years.
While I understood her concerns, my anxiety as a new parent spiked. Growing up, I was quite petite too, until about 8 or 9 years old when I hit a growth spurt. After that, I caught up and remained healthy and curvy. Leo, meanwhile, consistently stayed at the 5th percentile. Finding pants for him was a challenge; they had to have adjustable waists, always cinched to the tightest setting.
Despite his size, he was a healthy kid with plenty of energy and a sharp mind (yes, I’ll brag a little). Then, just as he turned 8, he experienced a significant growth spurt. He suddenly wanted to eat everything and started to outgrow his clothes. A little tummy appeared, which was cute, but I missed the days of pinching those chunky thighs.
After switching pediatricians due to an insurance change, I was anxious about Leo’s 8-year check-up. As soon as he stepped on the scale, the new pediatrician remarked, “Wow, he’s gained 10 pounds. That’s fine, but it’s not a growth pattern we want to continue.” Really? After years of worrying about his small stature, now I was being told he was growing too fast? I felt like I couldn’t win. And please, don’t say that in front of my child!
Flustered, I didn’t respond, but I wished I had. A few weeks later, Leo mentioned that the pediatrician thought he was growing too quickly and maybe even getting “fat.” My heart sank. I reassured him that he was perfect and simply growing like all kids do. I explained that growth spurts were normal, and there was nothing to worry about.
This is the kind of conversation that pediatricians should have with parents and children. Over the years, I’ve spoken to many parents who are stressed about their child’s position on those pesky percentile charts. I can’t help but wonder if these charts create more anxiety than they alleviate. Yes, some children might not be growing properly, and that needs attention. Obesity is a significant concern that must be addressed—but always with kindness and respect.
While I have great respect for pediatricians and appreciate their hard work and dedication, I believe we need a shift in how children’s growth is discussed. What if we looked at the bigger picture? Is the child healthy and happy? Are they meeting developmental milestones? Are they simply having a growth spurt or entering a new phase of growth? We should focus on the whole child, not just the numbers.
Most importantly, we need to change the way we talk about these statistics, especially in front of children. This discussion impacts their mental health, body image, and confidence. Instead of stressing parents out, let’s empower them by focusing on overall health rather than raw numbers. Parents already have enough to deal with without the added pressure of comparing their children to charts. A little common sense and compassion could go a long way.
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In summary, it’s crucial for pediatricians to adopt a holistic approach when discussing growth with parents and children. By shifting the focus from mere numbers to overall health and wellbeing, we can reduce anxiety and foster a positive body image in our children.