Hey there, mama! When it comes to deciding how long to breastfeed your little one, the choice is entirely yours. And if you opt not to breastfeed at all? That’s your decision too. It’s time to put an end to the judgment, guilt, and anxiety surrounding breastfeeding. Can we agree to just support each other in whatever choices we make regarding our bodies and our babies?
I see criticism coming from all directions. Some moms can’t fathom anything other than breastmilk touching their baby’s lips and feel compelled to criticize those who choose formula, unaware of their personal journeys. On the flip side, there are those who squirm at the sight of a nursing mother showing a bit of skin, or question why a mom would nurse a toddler instead of using a cup.
For the record, I’ve nursed both my children for an extended period and have the credentials as a lactation consultant to back it up. I truly believe that breastmilk is important, it can be life-saving, and every mother should have the opportunity to breastfeed if she desires. I wish that support for breastfeeding wasn’t so scarce and that insurance covered it properly.
However, I also think we need to chill out and start offering support to one another, regardless of how we choose to feed our babies. In the U.S., where most of us have access to some form of healthcare (though not all, which is a disgrace), most babies will thrive whether they are breastfed or not. While it’s true that breastmilk can prevent diseases and provide lifelong benefits, it’s essential to remember that the most critical factor is your child’s overall health and happiness.
Are you providing your child with nutritious meals? Are you getting them outside to play? Are you showering them with love and affection? Whether you breastfed or not, what matters is that you did your best given your circumstances and offered them all the love you could muster. If you did that, you’re doing wonderfully!
Let’s put a stop to the shame surrounding non-breastfeeding mothers. Many women I’ve worked with who didn’t breastfeed or stopped early are already feeling guilty, and they certainly don’t need additional judgment from others. You never know a mother’s full story, so don’t assume anything about her feeding choices. And if a mom simply never wanted to breastfeed? That’s her decision, and it’s none of your business.
On the other hand, if you see a mom proudly breastfeeding, don’t put her down for celebrating her achievements. Breastfeeding can be incredibly challenging, and mothers face criticism from all angles about it.
And let’s clear something up: when a woman breastfeeds, her breasts are not sexual objects. Sure, they can be sexual in other contexts, but when she’s feeding her baby, that’s what they’re for. It’s her choice how she uses her body, not yours.
To All the New Moms Out There
If you want to breastfeed, fantastic! If you choose not to, that’s perfectly fine too. If you’re facing challenges with breastfeeding, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional help (hint, hint). If finances are an issue, ask about sliding scale pricing; many lactation consultants are now covered by insurance. There are also volunteers ready to offer support. Most importantly, find someone who treats you with respect.
New moms, I know how overwhelming the pressure can feel regarding how to feed your baby. Don’t let others dictate what you should do with your body. Your choices are yours alone. Remember, your body, your baby, your decision.
This article encourages you to embrace your feeding choices, whatever they may be. For more insights, check out this excellent resource on intrauterine insemination or explore this other blog post for additional support and information.
In summary, whether you decide to breastfeed or use formula, what truly matters is the love and care you provide to your child. Support one another, and let go of the guilt and shame surrounding feeding choices.